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Getting back with an ex?
In April my boyfriend broke up with me and said he didn't love me anymore. For a few months before that he told me he wasn't sure what he wanted anymore. So I did expect it but it hurt a lot, we'd been together for 8 months.
In June I got with a new guy. We broke up last month. My ex added me on FB today and I think he's leaning towards getting back together, would you say that's a good idea or not? He's fell out of love with me once and totally broke my heart. Could he do it again?
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Tell him he has missed the boat.
I might have said give him a chance if he came back on bended knee and said "I've made a mistake and I know I want to try again." but he said that he is leaning towards getting back together? Could he be any more wishy washy and non-committal? His 'leanings' are not worth you risking your heart on.
He'd need to be offering better than that for it to be worth your while.
Could he change his mind again? Sure. People can always change and you have to respect that, and if you want to be with someone, you take that risk. But a guy who has told you he is sort of, maybe thinking about dating you again, is not one who is taking that risk with you: He is setting up his excuses for changing his mind before he even commits to what he wants. He’s leaving as much of the risk and anxiety on your shoulders as he can, and you don’t have to put up with that.
If you still have hope for this silly boy, at least tell him not to talk to you again about this until he has decided one way or another.
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One important thing is to always make sure you don't read between the lines when the writing is clear. Sometimes an addition to facebook is really just an addition to facebook. Falling out of love with someone is very possible. Your ex most likely just wants to be friends with you. If you still have strong feelings for your ex my advice would just be his friend and be yourself. If you do those things then he will most likely fall back into love with you. If he doesn't then you still have a close friend that you can lean on.
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