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How to tell if my boyfriend really loves me
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. Yesterday he told me that he loves me. We've never said the L word to each other before. I told him that I liked him a lot that I was glad he cared so much for me. I know it sounds harsh but I don't think we're able to really fall in love because we're so young (we're both 14). He knows I care about him, and he said it was okay if I didn't say I loved him back. How do I know if he really does love me though? I don't want to act like this is no big deal, because it's HUGE, but I don't want to encourage to say things like this if he only THINKS he loves me or something?
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You can never really, truly, know what another person is thinking or feeling.
That's why trust is so important. You have to trust and respect your boyfriend enough to believe that what he tells you is true.
Don't worry about 'encouraging' him or anything like that. Instead, let him know that you trust him to be honest with you, and that you are going to be honest with him. If you can't honestly say love back to him, then don't.
Someday, someone is going to lie to you. There is no way to avoid that, but you'll make yourself miserable if you go around suspecting your partner of being the one who lies. By all means ask him about it, but remember to trust him to know his own heart.
I’ll say this about love and being too young: The way I feel and express love now, in my twenties, is very, very different than the way I was able to express love in my early teens. It’s fuller, more honest and I am all around better at being in love and being loving. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t love my partners when I was a teenager, it wasn’t a lie when I was 14 to say ‘I love you’, I just wasn’t very good at it back then.
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