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Where and how to meet guys?
17/f.
I just never seem to meet anyone. I know so many people that are always seeing various guys, but my love life, for the majority of the time is pretty much non-existent. I always kind of think that someday someone will come along, but I've been thinking that for years and it hasn't happened. It's not that I'm unattractive - I receive a lot of male attention, and am always told by guys that I'm very attractive. But I just never seem to meet anyone that amounts to anything.
Which places would you say do a lot of guys hang out? And what are the kind of places where everybody mingles and gets to know each other? I feel like wherever I go, I don't really mingle with anyone, and if I do, it doesn't turn into anything else. I'm also quite shy and I don't really know how to approach guys. I'm often told I appear cold or initimidating, which I think maybe stops guys from approaching me, so what are some ways of looking more approachable and of approaching guys?
So yeah, just how to meet guys, really? It seems like there's no guys around, but there must be!
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Meet guys in places that you're interested in.
If you're a big reader then spend extra time in libraries. Watch who frequents, who checks out books that also interest you, and who is simply attractive. Strike up conversation about the reading material. Make suggestions, gather suggestions, and exchange introductions at least.
If you're into socializing then clubs, bars, dances, and other gather zones might be interesting. Do the same thing. Hang around. People watch. See who might be interesting. Strike up conversation. Meet them.
It goes for anything from rollerblading to hockey. From the internet and web design to gardening.
If there is no centralized location for these sorts of people to enjoy their hobby or interest in then there is a group. Trust me. There is a group for anything and everything. So, you take the initiative and join the group. This could be anything from book clubs to baking groups. You meet people who are interested in the things you are interested in. You have something in common right off the bat. Conversation comes quickly and easily then.
"Hey, that looks like a great book. I thought about checking it out. Since you're returning it, could you tell me how you liked it?"
"Oh, wow, what is that you're drinking? I just had an [drink] and it was tasty but that looks even better."
"I see you've been in this art course for awhile and I really admire your work. I love this particular piece you did. Maybe you could show me your techniques sometime?"
"I love music and heard you play last Friday night at this cafe. It was really beautiful and I think you're talented. Could you tell me how you learned to play?"
And then, later after conversation has been created, you make introductions:
"Oh, I'm so sorry, how rude of me. My name is NAME. It's nice to meet you and I'm glad I noticed you and thought to speak with you tonight."
Really, if you go after guys who you don't know anything about first then you are starting on a very plain ground. He may absolutely hate your favorite hobby or most fascinating interest. If you meet guys who are already into what you're into then you already have something in common and something to discuss right away. It's really, really as simple as that.
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