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Bipolar relationship
Ive known this guy, ill call him ricky, for about five months and we hit it off really good. About a month ago we realized we like each other so we started talking. We hung out almost everyday and things were great. He introduced me to his family, I introduced him to mine. Now let me tell you about April. April doesn't like Ricky because she gets a "bad vibe" from him. Rocky isn't the greatest person but I know everything about him, April just assumes things. Well ricky doesn't like April because she always tries to argue with him. I recently started hanging out with April and my relationship/friendship with Ricky is falling apart fast. I'm not sure what to do anymore. He called me a couple of days ago and told me how he thinks I'm changing because I'm the one who started seperating from him first. I told him I'd rather talk to him in person about everything so we were supposed to talk today but as soon as I said "hi" he just waved and I wasn't sure what to do so I turned away from him and put my iPod on. April thinks I should just forget about him and find a new guy but I really like this guy. Not talking to him is tearing me apart. I'm usually great at hiding feelings but now it seems like the whole world knows I'm sad. Should I just walk up to him and make him hear me out? I feel like I'm not putting in any effort anymore. Or should I just forget about him? Any advice/comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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I'm not out to bash you over the head but please refrain from using the word "bipolar" to describe a relationship or as heading for a relationship question. I thought this would be about one person dating another with the disease and found it wasn't when opening it.
Bipolar disorder is NOTHING like they portray it in the movies or media and ruins lives and families, careers, reputation and quality of life as treatment is brutal and hard to come back from delusions to reality.
Using the term in any other instance to describe something isn't right and even though you're smart makes you look otherwise.
YOUR QUESTION/ ANSWER AS FOLLOWS:
Perhaps there isn't really a problem between you and this guy. It all lies with his dislike of her and not you. He can't handle being around her with you. Talk to him about April and what's happening and why he seems to have distanced himself from you.
Tell him you meant to talk to him that day but don't enjoy confrontation and had no idea how to handle face-to-face with him right now. If you LIKE him tell him as much. Also, take people's comments about him seriously but tell her that she's the one with an issue with him and not you and that you've heard her out but know what you want and it's him in your life.
Tell her if she isn't cool with that and can't be civil with him to deal with her shit on her own time or let you and your friend be and spend time with you separately or not at all. She'll get that she can't dictate your relationships.
Never let anyone dictate what you do unless it's your parents or an adult that knows something isn't a good situation. Talk to the guy and stop being sad as it's you that has allowed yourself to enter that state when it appears to him as nothing is different but everyone being distant.
Talk to them both and move forward with what feels right rather than doing nothing and just spinning your wheels in the mud.
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