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girlfriend issues about my dreams and goals
Hi I have been lost on what to do about how my girlfriend of 1 yr and 7 months doesn't approve of what my goals and dreams for my life are. I am a junior in college about to be 21 and I play golf and want to be a head golf professional at a golf course or even try to make it on tour but my girlfriend trys to tell me how i need to come up with a new dream and goal because she thinks I will never be home. I have played golf and had these dreams ever since I could walk. I am in love with her and don't want to lose her. She also trys to say that if I keep playing golf she will break up with me and it so happens that she does this the night or couple days before i have a tournament which i then can't play to my full potentional. What is the best thing to do?
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first off, DON'T CHANGE ANY LIFE PLANS TO BE WITH SOMEONE!! (srry bout the caps) If she can't fully support you, then in my opinion she doesn't really love you. Love to me is where you care enough about someone, you would leave them if that made them happier you would support their goals and dreams. Now, i personally find golf a silly sport. But it's your goal. Don't change who you are or who you want to be because of some girl. I know you love her. I know you care. I have been with mine for a year and 6 months and not once has she or I shot down each others dreams. She wants to be a vet. I think that's silly and going to be very hard, but i tell her that i believe in her and that she can do anything she puts her mind to. Talk to her. Tell her that if she can't support you that she will have to find someone willing to put up with the constant shooting down of plans and dreams. Good luck to ya
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The best thing to do is tell your girlfriend that if she can't support you and the dreams and goals you have for your life than she can just move on. You have goals. Someone who really cares for you HELPS you acheive those goals, they don't stand in your way. Her threats are selfish and all about herself, not you and the future you are trying to create. Would you dream of treating her dreams that way? I'm pretty sure the answer is no. You'll know when the right woman comes along because she will fit right into your life and it will feel like her presence in your life makes things easier, not harder. Sorry, your gf sounds like a total selfish b... don't waste more time on someone who thinks so little of your ambition.
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