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What should I do ? I am very confused
I have been dating the same man for about a year, 9 months of which he was gone. we have been planing on moving in together. The thing is he had told me the military would be paying for the housing. Do not get me wrong I do not have a problem paying my share, if that would have been what we had discussed since the begining. He has kind of kept me out of the rental process until now. Now he is saying he wants me to pay half of the rent. I am confused as to what to say or what to do. He will be moving in three months, so we are on a time limit to live togteher and see if i should move too,which if I do I will be laveing my family and a great job, but thats what you do when you love someone. He confuses me also becasue he does not say I love you he says I really feel like i love you but i dont want to hurt you incase you do not come with me... he seems so back and fourth it is confusing me. to top it all of I may be pregnant, and he is hoping that I am, he says he wants to try to have a baby. I know what i am saying or asking is confusing, but that is because I am so confused. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Yep, it all sounds very confusing. But I think you are already aware of the answer to this question. So step back, take a breath, and picture yourself listening to your best girlfriend tell you this same thing. What would you tell her? Are you really going to pick up and leave everything, your work, your family, your friends, your security and move in to a house with a man that wants to have a baby with you (sounds like he wants to keep you tied to him, really) and then leave you for weeks/months/years at a time for his service, but doesn't ever say he loves you and won't marry you? Girl, turn around and run the other way. No, you DON'T give up your whole life for someone you love. That's not how love works and it makes me sad to think that is your view of love. When two people love each other they make each other's worlds BETTER, not more confusing. Their personalities compliment each other and they fit into each other's lives. One does not give up themselves and their own dreams for the other. If he really cared for you he'd be doing everything in his power to make sure you were happy. You're not going to be happy moving to military housing with a man who won't make a comittment to you, that you might be having a baby with, who actually expects you to pay HALF the rent! Get out now. I hate to sound blunt, but you are wasting valuable years on this man. You may be missing the man of your dreams while you're wasting all this energy trying to understand a situation in which you've handed over complete control to the other person.
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