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19/f i am in college i have a few friends i go to church with. Well i don't go anymore because i don't feel comfortable. well anyways my friends that i went to church with are always busy, and i do have my one really good friend but ever since she's converted she's become really self-righteous. I have made friends in my classes in previous classes but after a while i stopped talking to them because i found out they were fake. i talk to kids in my class but i feel awkward if i tried to be friends with because im paranoid if they'll judge me, talk about me behind my back, or just pretend to be my friend, because it's happened before. And plus most people i got to school with just go to school and that's it. People in my class are just classmates. I mean i want to have friends but i am so paranoid about everything. I am depressed that i barely have any friends. what should i do?
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Oh, sweetie I've been there and done that. I completely understand how your feeling and it's not easy being in that situation. I'd love to be able to help you but all I can really say are the obvious. You have to let go of the paranoia. Don't worry about what anybody thinks about you because their opinion doesn't matter unless you let it. If they don't like you then they're the ones missing out. But most likely they'll end up loving you when you show them who you really are! In class just start up a conversation with someone about anything, maybe about the class, or maybe compliment them on something, but be honest don't just make something up. I know from experience that this actually can start friendships. Don't be afraid to speak your mind if your working in groups or in a class discussion because you can spike up a conversation with someone later on who has the same opinion as you!
Also, don't give up on your old friends. Try to reconnect with them. It's likely that you're all just caught up in what's been going on and they haven't had a chance to chat with you. Try to hang out with them! Maybe even try going to church again. If you really don't feel comfortable then don't but tell your friends that you do want to meet up with them some other time because you feel like you're losing touch with them.
I know how it feels but I promise you that everything will get better! You just have to try to break out of your shell, even just a little bit. You'll be glad you did in the end! Hope this helps and good luck! :)
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