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No more butterflies?
So I've been with my boyfriend exactly one year yesterday. For like a month or so now, everytime we hang out and go out on dates and stuff, I don't feel like I used to about being with him. It's fun and not awkward or anything, I just feel "content" I guess. And it sucks a lot because I really love him and I really want to make it work...and I'm going to try, I just don't know what to do because I've never been in this situation before. I told him about my "content" feeling and he said we should try new things so I could get the butterflies back...will that work? I haven't got any idea of what to do so any advice will help me. Thank you :)
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As someone who's coming up on her 4 year anniversary, I can tell you that what you're dealing with is totally normal and not at all a negative thing. There is absolutely nothing to fix here.
You're not going to have butterflies forever. Butterflies are something you get in the honeymoon phase of a relationship; everything is new and exciting, you're learning about each other, etc. Once your relationship deepens and matures a little, you start to feel more than just excitement. You love the other person for everything they are, plain and simple.
Being content is not a bad thing. It's a good thing. Relationships aren't meant to be volatile forever. You're not bored with him, and you're not falling out of love, from what you've said. You're just happy and secure. The rush of an early relationship is fun, but being at a point in your relationship where you feel snug and safe and happy and totally comfortable is so much better.
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