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A Not-So-Uncomplicated Situation?
Okay, so i have a loooot of thinking to do on a subject. I'd really appreciate some help with this!
Let's say I dated a guy for 2 months(this summer). But, we both knew he was moving. So as you can tell, we weren't really a "serious" relationship (more like good friends with benefits). He was absolutely positive he wanted to break up with me from the get-go. Now with that said, you'd probably wonder why I'd even be with him- and I can just say, it was a light,fun fling kind of thing. In my opinion, his way of relationships was not how I'd view one. So now that he's moved, we've broken up, agreed to stay friends, blah blah blah. As you can see we're both not hurt by it at all. Now here's the thing. For awhile now, I've liked his older brother. You might be thinking this is a red flag- and I'm scared it may be too. I KNOW, it's bad to like someone while dating someone else, but this was just really something that's never happend before. THE KINDA BAD THING: His brother and him are wicked close friends. But I feel so good around him, and we get along so well! I'm not saying any time soon- but do you personally think, IN TIME, that I could pursue this relationship further? Is it against guy-code, or whatever? We've already hung out with out my ex, and we still get along. I know I don't need a relationship RIGHT this moment, but it feels so right. And yet, the fact it's my ex's brother is what's stopping both of us.
I really hope someone's read this, and my main question is - What do you think of all of this? What should I do, and What would be the best way to go about it? Have you ever been in this situation? Should I just forget about it and move on? Any information is good- thanks!
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I think this is a very complicated situation! Well i'm a girl, but the guy was obviously not in love with you or anything if the thing ya'll had going on was more about the benefits than anything else. First of all did his older brother stay? or move?
I'm almost sure that is against a guy-code or something, because a couple of guys i've met this has happened to them and they were against it. But i do know of people who have done this, just as long as the other brother was okay with it and they asked them about it before.
So you've already told him? I think it is possible for you to be with the brother just ask the older brother to ask his younger brother about it and say if it's cool.And no i have never been in this situation. And no if it feels right just ask him to do that and if he doesn't want to, then he does not want to be with you that bad, then he's not worth it!:] Hope i helped, Good luck!
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