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OK so i did what you said and it worked!
I was so happy to tell my grandfather that even though he messed up the check this one lady still cashed it. He got upset and was talking about getting the lady fired and i was supposed to bring it to the school and what not. I was like " but i told you we already paid the school" and he was like "they would have reimbursed you, but instead you snuck and got over on people and cashed it illegally im gonna call bank of america and tell them how they violated my rights and get that lady fired"...i told him "sry i didnt know that was the case i thought you made a mistake why didnt say anything when i told you i was doing this?" and he said he trusted that the bank would not cash it to me....so...that plan kinda blew up in my face apparently he does not trust me or my mother and we didnt do anything to him so he stopped the transfer to my account and took it all back. I understand that this would completely prove that im sneaking but i is there anyway i can stop this transfer legally? like can he really just take it back? I really hate that he treated me and my mother like we are criminals just because he has alot of money. I always handle things like this the that sounds right. I knew he purposely put both those names on the check but i didnt know that he had normal intentions as in giving the check to the school...i never even thought twice about that really. But let me know what i can do please because right now we are not on speaking terms and he started this war first calling me names and crap, i didnt deserve it for making a mistake. My mom didnt deserve maxing all her credit cards out to pay for tuition that he promised would be there if i went to the school of my choice. thanks.
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I'm a bit confused. I thought your grandfather had agreed to give you this money to reimburse your family for your tuition costs?
If you didn't explain to him before hand that you had already paid, and that he would be reimbursing you (and therefore paying for it).
If you didn't make that clear beforehand, that was a mistake.
If your grandfather did know that, and deliberately sent you a check he thought you could never cash (thereby going back on his offer to pay your tuition.) Then he is not a nice person.
I like to always say that we should never attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity. It's possible that you did your best and your grandfather just doesn't understand, and wasn't able to grasp the situation. From my every experience with universities, they would not have reimbursed you and accepted a cheque (especially a miswritten cheque instead). They might have, but that seems exceedingly unlikely to me. Since they had already been paid, they would no longer have considered it their problem. Even if they did, cashing it yourself ends up the exact same way! If it was really important to your grandfather that it was cashed BY the university, and not you, he shouldn't have put your name on it!
You did nothing sneaky at all. At worse, you didn't communicate clearly enough with him the first place... The cheque was, improperly, made out to you and your school. Since you had already paid the school, it was perfectly rational for you to keep the money.
Your grandfather is confused, perhaps also cruel and irrational, but definitely confused. He is distrusting and judgmental, and it's unlikely that is going to change.
Unfortunately, there is probably nothing you can do about the money. He will probably not get the young lady fired for doing, what is her job, and making a judgment call about an improperly written cheque, but he will likely be able to stop payment on the cheque. There is no legal way to stop that UNLESS you have a written contract from him agreeing to pay for your tuition. Even then, you'd have to take him to small claims court, and that will take time.
If I were you, I'd go talk it over with a counselor at your school. They might have some better specific advice for you. I hope they have better advice for you, because from where I am sitting, that money is gone. It's cruel and unfair and your grandfather is absolutely wrong, but legally he will probably be able to stop payment on that cheque.
I'm so sorry this hasn't worked out. You and your mom might have been able to communicate a bit clearer what was going on to your grandfather, but that mistake doesn't really warrant the response you've received. By all means, keep on not speaking to him. He's proven that, for whatever reason, he is not capable of carrying on a civil conversation or arrangement with you.
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