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moving to another state but my wife dont want to
Hi I've been with other half 6 years. We got married a year ago. We get along 60% of the time. I do love her . We don't have kids. She and I have good jobs. Our social life was great. Now. I really don't want to go and do the same things we did mainly. Bars.clubs I'm 34 now. I rather stay home and tell her to go with her friends. I have many toys like boat.jetski.4 motorcycles. A custom truck. Newish s.u.v . And 2 other trucks. I am a beach person. So anyway I always went to Florida for Vaca and enjoyed the sun. So now I'm asking her that we should move there. But she 1 doesn't want to leave her family and 2 her job. Witch is a second grade teacher. Now don't get me wrong but I love new York. But its radicals expensive here and I'm tired of the real cold weather. I've been having this itch for ever and like I don't know what to do. I say life is short. And move on. I know I'm selfish. Like I don't know what to do . My mind is saying go, everyday but I can't do it. And we spoke about it and by the end of discussion. I feel bad. We are two different people in a way. I'm more of a bad boy and she os the good girl. But when we fight I just want to say go. But I never do. I know witch way I take I will make her sad. But life is short and I'm miserable here. Vacation is not enough. And I could move my online business. But I don't make enough to buy a house and take care of us at same time. Note all toys where bought In a 10 year period. So what should I do stay and deal with cold and be unhappy ,and how expensive it is here. Geez a pack of cigarettes are almost 11 dollars. I don't smoke just example. So far I'm leaning to go and take the coward way out . Leaving without notice. Bit how can I make this work in a man way. Thanks for any advice
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I stongly believe that everybody deserves closure... I think you need to sit down and tell her how you feel... I've personally been treated like that and I really don't condone such behavior...
And if that's the way you feel then maybe it's just not meant to be... Don't feel bad about the way you feel.. Don't even try to justify the way you feel... It's normal sometimes we all grow apart and don't feel guilty or even let anyone make you feel that way...
Florida is a great place to live... The beach is everywhere and you're a beach person... It's a beautiful laid back place and if that's where your heart is... Knock yourself out... I have family there and personally that's a place I will really consider moving to...
And yes I know from personal experience that NewYork is very expensive... It's a great place where alot of action is... And it's for some but not so much for others...
And that's not where your heart is at... It's totally odvious you're not there in heart... But only spirit... But you need to talk to her and explain the way you feel... She might take it hard, but when it's all said and done... You'll have her respect...So go to Florida... But please close the door on your past before you do... And remember your happiness comes first....
`````The best of luck to you and always`````````
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