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Should I marry him ?
I've known the man I'm with for a few years now. We didn't start dating until recently, and because of our previous friendship I think that might have caused our feelings to "acclerate" faster than what's probably healthy.
There's just something about him. It keeps me interested. I'm intrigued by him, even.
It's a little confusing, so I'll start from the beginning if you don't mind.
He lives in a separate town about 20 minutes away from where I live. Whenever we see eachother, it's perfect; unexplainable.
But whenever we can't see eachother (his car is broken down, and I, unfortunately, don't have one; I can't afford it) he never really talks to me. I have to be the one to initiate a conversation, or find a way to go see him. He seems genuine, but I keep telling him that communication is key for a functional relationship. Not 24/7 of course, that's kid of clingy. I just mean courtesy. Let-me-know-how-you're-doing kind of thing.
But, apparently, he likes actually "seeing" a person to be with them.
Which I don't think is quite right. Shouldn't a relationship not change due to distance apart and/or time away from eachother ?
To wrap things up, he wants to marry me. I told him I want to join the military, and that's when he came up with the idea. Do you think he really cares, or do you think he might just be staying with me so he'll have "guaranteed support".
I'm constantly worried about his motives. He said he's to the age where he wants to settle down, and doesn't want to be with anyone but me. He even said he doesn't even want to be sexually involved with other women, just me.
What do you think ?
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Too early in my opinion, but then I know practically nothing about your relationship or this guy. He might be entirely genuine, he might not. The one thing I can say is that dating recently doesn't put you in a good position to really know him all that well. There's a wall when you're just friends, and you never get past it until intimacy is established. It sounds like you've been dating less than a year, you sure as hell don't want to get married after six months or even just a year of dating at your age (again assuming under 25)
Focus on your life. Given the question, that's the best I can do. I can't guarantee anything about this guy, I can't even predict. But I can tell you that if you get married for someone elses reasons on someone else's timeline, you'll end up regretting it.
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