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Hey, I need some advice about a guy. We've been friends for about a year now, and have gotten really really close. We've always been teased about getting together and in the middle of the year, we talked about a potential relationship, but he said because he was leaving for university next year, it wouldn't be the best idea. And I was really getting over him, until about two weeks ago, when he was drinking at grad party, and we spent a lot of time together. He held me in front of everyone (which I didn't expect, knowing how much he would be made fun of) and kissed me, but not on the lips. When he asked me if he could kiss me for real, I told him to wait until he was sober. The next day, I texted him to ask if he was really as drunk as he said he was, and he said he wasn't. After a long conversation where we both admitted we'd LIKE to try something, we decided to wait until the "near future" and see how things play out. This is driving me crazy, and I will be devastated to know if nothing like what happened at grad ever happens again. Help?
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Hey :) Thanks for asking me, I really hope I can help! Well first off, I've kind of been in your situation before. I liked my best guy friend at one point and decided to tell him about it..he said he liked me too, but we decided to just stay friends..that way nothing would jeopardize out friendship. After a few months, I decided I still had feelings for him and told him about it..but he wanted to stay friends and not risk losing anything and that maybe in thefuture something would happen. Within time passing by, I realized that my feelings weren't as strong as I thought and that we would be better off as friends.
Anyway, I think you should wait. He does have a point with the whole going to university next year idea. Things could change a lot with him being away, you know? I think it is best that you hold off for at least some time while he is at university. See how things go, and if you both have the same feelings while he is away. If it's meant to be, everything will fall into place soon enough. "Good things take time". Don't rush it :) For now, try to think less about it...see other guys in the mean time and see if your feelings for him change, and he should do the same. If after a while you two realize you really truly believe you should be together, then try it out. It's better to risk it than to wonder "what-if" later on. I know it's going to be hard to wait out, but it'll be for the best later...and you'll get to see just how strong your feelings/future relationship will be :) You can do this. Try to take your mind off of him by keeping yourself very busy; it works :) Good luck on everything, and I hope this helped<3
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