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okay. i am confused.i have a bf but i have feeling for some1 else
well im a sixteen year old girl. i have a problem. i'm dating someone for about 3 months. but i;m interested in someone else..okay so my story starts out as this. I met this kid shuan at a friend's sweet sixteen. I saw him and I knew who he was already (several years ago me and my friend had a crush on him but I never talked to him) usually I'm not shy, I used to be but I've outgrown that. so I go up to him and I introduce myself. we immediately have chemistry. we were already talking about what we want to do as a occupation when were older. I admired his wittiness. (he's very smart and I love the way he see's things). we talked and danced. but later I found out that my friend was trying to hook him up with my other friend. (fortunately their just friends) and so you know the party ended we said our goodbyes. (I didn't ask for his number and neith er did he) several months pass and we seen each other at school. talk sometimes. then I saw him again at another party. he asks me to dance and we dance great together. we both are very different from the way our friends dance and it's always fun. that's when we exchange numbers. (I have a boyfriend during this time when we first exchange numbers. when we first met i was single) I couldn't help but feel great chemistry with him. and when we now text message and my feelings is growing. we admitted to each other that talking with each other always puts us in a good mood. I asked him if it's wrong that I have tiny crush on him and he told me "well, no, I think your amazing. I just think we'd be in a awkward situation if we did anything about it" (I still have my boyfriend when we had this conversation) I like the way he remembers things and listens to me, he is just my friend but he listens to me more than anybody else. I told him I had a leaf collection and I'm looking for new leaves. the next day he brings me a leaf! and then now whenever he travels he brings me leaves from historical places which is awesome. the problem is I have this boyfriend. I kinda realize I should be with shuan. it's sad to do things like this. but I think it might be worth it...and another good thing about this kid is that whenever I'm down he does this cute thing and tells me a joke. it makes me feel better. my boyfriend. he is always there for me. and i have some problems at home and all but he makes me feel worse. i feel stressed because he wants to have all these serious talks about feelings and i understand he cares but i didn't get a boyfriend to be my therapist. i got one because i want to have fun with someone and converse about things other than the way we feel and how we wish we were happy. ugh. but anyways back to shuan. when i tell him about my problems he is always open to listen and the advice he gives me is "s**t man, sorry to hear that. in situations like this there is nothing you can do but just hang in there. things like this will only make you stronger :]. i'm always here when you need to unload something feel free to hit me up, no worries" and boom. that makes me feel better i don't want to hear "i'm so sorry. i wish i can do more. i want to help you. you deserve so much more" (this is what my boyfriend tells me) i do appreciate that he cares. but i just don't feel well when we have talks like this. and we have talks like this every day!!!!!!! but umm, yeah the other day i told shaun i want to practice tennis because i want to join the school team. he tells me that we should practice together. so we do and he says we can get better together and once i make the team he'll come see a couple of home games for support. i dont know. i remember telling my sister about him a long time ago when me and my boyfriend just started dating and my sister told me "wow, now that guy sounds like a gentleman. he listens to you and he remembers. just remember that for the future." and now i'm thinking about it. idk what to do :/ pleease help me.
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That is so very very hurtful to your boyfriend
do you not care for his feeling? or is that you want both when you're not sure?
sounds selfish to me.
the way you slam him(your boyfriend) to try to make this other guy look better.
if he is so much better than :
call your boyfriend tell him you cannot be in a relationship!!, say your sorry
and tell him it's not going to work.
3 months? he'll get over it quick.
now it depends on how fast you want to move into a relationship with this other guy I suggest waiting few months? but what is this other guy going to think "Wow, she ditched her boyfriend for me, is she going to ditch me for some other guy?"
tough love! I suggest waiting a while, but let this other guy know you're interested! you just need a little time.
of course this other guy could think "Damn, I am special.. she ditched him for me" and like it right away lol :(
depends on his personality
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