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Is this why he's so dependent on me?
Hello..
Hello I've been in a relationship with my boy friend for a long time now. He means everything to me. <3 I love him so much. We both are alike and very diffrent in many ways. Were alike by he is very senstive just like me, but it seems to me that he is more sensitve he's very senstive and he's has this fear of losing me. He's always afraid..and I wonder if thats because of him not having a mother in his life? You see his mother was into drugs, and he has no wishes of being with her. Also I think it's the fear of me breaking up with him, like the last few girls he's dated. I really would like to know the reason..and I want to make him feel more secure..what do you think ?
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It sounds like he has some insecurity issues. One of my ex boyfriends was the same way. He didn't have the highest self esteem so he was always worried about me breaking up with him. However, I think the mother thing definitely has a lot to do with it. The role our parents have in our lives is huge. If the main female figure in his life was so careless and untrustworthy, it is very possible that he is channeling these feelings into your relationship. The best thing you can do is sit down with him and tell him just how much he means to you. The smallest compliment can be amazingly helpful and reassuring. I hope this helps at least a little. Good luck with everything.
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Hey..
I think you just need to talk with him. Tell him how much you care about him and asure him that your not going anywhere. You see, he's scared because all the women in his life have abandoned him at some point, and he probably fears that you are the same. Tell him you're not like that, and even more importantly, show him you're not like that. By being with him and showing him your love and affection you will build trust, and it seems like that is what he is needs and is what he is most sceptical about.
hope this helps!
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