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being friends after a breakup
16/f
so a month ago my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me and i was badgering him with questions because what he was saying wasnt quite making sense. but i know its time to move on. any tips of how i can?
and also i wanna be friends with him but its like how do i even do that? like do i casual talk with him? dont text him for a few weeks?
im still hurt by what he did and im still confused by it. i guess i just need help.
his reasons for breaking up with me were that things faded, he didnt have time and that i was more serious than him. and then he kept telling me that there was no one else. but i dont get why we couldnt just work it out?
im totally over him i just need more help.
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wow, this totally seems exactly what Iv'e just been through, except he now has a new girlfriend and it was only two weeks after we broke up.
When you say you're totally over him why would you want some tips on how you can move on?
and if you want to be friends with him tell him that and work it out from there, if it's ment to be it will be, if not leave it and don't try to talk to him other wise it will end up hurting you even more.
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Hey girl!
I'm 20 years old and have been through my share of break ups. I have tried everything and I really believe the only thing that can completely heal you is time. I know that sounds so corny but it really is true. Distract yourself with friends, work, etc and eventually you will not even care about him. I dated a guy for three years and when we broke up, I thought I was over it in like 2 months but it really took about 10 months for me to COMPLETELY move on. It takes a while to remeber how to be single and live it up with your girls!! But once you get back in the dating game you will realize that it's fun to meet new guys and not always be tied down. So don't feel like you have to "do" something to get over him. Let the breakup run it's course and then you will be happy again :)
I also would not try to contact him untill you are absolutely sure you are completely over him. You can't just be friends with a guy even if you have the tiniest feelings for him. You said you still feel hurt and confused...so I think you should distance yourself from him as much as you can. He isn't a part of your life anymore. I know that is hard to hear and it might make you sad but if he hurt you like that he really shouldn't be in your life.
And also, you don't want him to think that you are sitting around thinking about him. Trust me, if you show him how confident you are and how well you are doing, he will think twice about what he did! And the longer you go without texting him, the more he will wonder why you aren't trying to contact him. It might seem like he broke up with you and doesn't care anymore....but he does. Boys just don't show it like girls do.
Anyway, I think you're better than him and will find your dream guy soon- one that won't ever hurt you :)
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