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sex issues..
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together 8months and im seriously starting to think im disfunctional or something. Lol let me explain.
Okay basicly everytime we fool around I feel nothing. :|
The first few times he fingered me it really hurt (he popped my cherry that way) then after that it didnt really feel like anything.
He obviously sensed that so we talked and I said I prefer being just like rubbed.
A few months ago we decided we were ready to have sex but it just didnt go to plan.
It was awkward on both parts just wasnt the right time.
The second time when it felt better we said wed try again it went in and all but the condom wouldn't stay on properly it kept like coming off? anyway obviously we stopped since that was a problem. But it was just really frustrating we havn't tried since.
He seems to be obsessed with making me cum yet it never happend. I never even seem to cum when im doing it myself I just get this like intense build up and then sensation for a few seconds its really good but i wanna be able to cum?!
Im really worried now that theres definately something wrong with me and that when we go to have sex properly it just won't feel like anything either.
are we just doing thigs wrong?has any girl had any similar expieriences and know what I mean.
Sometimes I just get dry and itchy instead of wet too..
Ugh I don't know this is incrediabely frustrating and embarassing. someone please help :( I was talking to my sister and she was saying perhaps its cos im thinking about it too much and im not totally relaxed enough?
I find it hard opening up to people aswell and my bf knows that so talking about these type of situations is hard for me you know telling him what to do and that I know I have to but if anyone has any ideas on how I go about that (I know I must sound incrediabely dumb!)
any advice at all would help! (oh and about the condom too..why wouldnt it stay on..is it him?or is it the way we are putting it on?) I really feel im ready for this I love my boyfriend and hes the first person ive gone this far with so I want it to be special and good for both of us :(
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I am assuming when you say you prefer being "rubbed" you mean having him rub your clitoris. Most women can not have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation. So you are totally normal.
Also some women just dont get that wet. I am also one of those people, but dont worry, lube is there for a reason! It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Honestly sex or fingering is way better for me with lube and way easier for him because he can just slide around. lol
The condom could be coming off because he's not hard enough or losing his erection or it is just too big. And that has nothing to do with him not finding you attractive or anything like that dont worry. He's probably incredibly nervous, even more so than what he shows. It happened with my boyfriend the first time. Just don't get upset, be understanding and keep at it!
I also did not have a lot of feeling inside until a few times of having sex later when I was less nervous and could think more about the pleasure than making sure everything is in place, where it needs to be and keeping it that way :P.
As far as you cumming you will have clarify what you mean. Do you mean having an orgasm or do you mean actually having something squirt out of you?
Don't worry, sex is just something that you have to explore together to figure it out. Don't forget it's not a race, there is no rush so take your time and you'll get there.
I hope I answered all of your questions. If you have anymore feel free to ask!
ADD: Yes, very very few women can "squirt", I mean like next to none. You might be able to practice, but I have no idea if it will make you be able to do it. I am pretty sure it is just something natural that a very small amount of women can do.
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