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losing what you never had
so this guy and I have liked each other for a long time. It’s mid-may now, and we’ve been talking almost every day since around december. since i’m a freshman and he’s a junior, we barely talk at school. he’s my brothers best friend (one problem to why it’s hard to like him).
i’m the type of person who always wants to show that she’s the better one - so sometimes i act like i don’t care what he’s saying so i don’t look too eager. but i must admit, he’s always the one carrying on with conversation - but sometimes i get really annoyed with him.
anyways... we’ve liked each other for 5 months and he directly admitted that to me, and i kind of did, in a way, but he knew that i liked him.
this weekend there were a bunch of spanish exchange students who came here and he made out and put his hands down one of their skirts - but what he told me was that they only kissed “because it was a game” but later i found out he lied and i confronted him through text (lame i know, but we had like a 3-day weekend that time). and he said sorry, he didn’t want to hurt me or lose me, and i just was being really mad and stuff.
i really want to forgive him - and for some reason i feel like
a) yes, i should be angry at him because he made me cry so much that night. he betrayed me and asked me to trust him then he lied to me.
b) yes he lied to me, but hes a good person and he wont do it again (i know him). and we weren’t really going out.
so i don’t know which option to choose. i really want him back because we’re not even going out but what we had was really something i don’t want to lose - but i feel like because he lied it just ruins a lot of things.
should i forgive him? should i give it some time so he doesn’t think i give in too easily? what should i do? :(
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I think you should forgive him everyone makes mistakes & he isn't perfect yes he lied but he
apologized and said sorry if you truely don't
want to loose him then he give him another chance if
you do then he could prove to you that he won't make
the same mistake twice yes you have every right to be angry at him but like i said he made a mistake &
if you really want him back then you should give him
a second chance & see if he does the right thing i think you should tell him once your ready without giving it sometime that way he'll get a answer quicker from you(:
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I feel as if you should wait it out. It does seem as you have strong feelings for this boy, but a lie is still a lie. What bothers me is the fact that he lied to you, and then did not admit to this lie until you confronted him about it.
I feel if you really want to forgive him you can, but do not jump right into anything. Techncially, he is single but he knew the way you felt about him and his actions were wrong.
Give it time. See if over an extended period of time he stays devoted to you, and does not lie any more. If he doesn't then see how things go. However, if you catch him in any more lies, it may be best to just let him go. You do not want to go into a relationship without trust, so wait and see if that trust can be rebuilt.
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