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Boyfriends best friend?
Well hi..to start off I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I care about him and respect him and I would never do anything to harm him at all.I'm very faithful and loyal to him. I had all these issues arising a while ago..my friends lil sister thought she saw my bf kissing another girl..which I went over with him and he told me hoenstly he never did anything like that. Well and the next day..he hoenstly told me tht he started having feelings for his best friend..it hurt me and it hurt him WORSE..because he got so upset over it..he was crying and i was trying to talk to him on IM..He told me he doesnt want to hurt anyone..especially me..nd he said he was going to kill himself..than he got off IM..so I started panicing.. and crying because I didnt want anything to happen to him. I kept calling and calling..trying to get ahold of him..my mom called..left messages..finally my mom called..and got him on the phone..nd we spent a couple hours just crying..and working things out. :/ After that it was alright..and were ok now..but his best friend..always comments on his stuff..writes on her status tht" she loves her best friend lou lockhart." ...I know i sound like the jealous and overprotective type but things like this get to me..he tells me he only loves me and wants me..he chose me over her twice now. He's very good to me..he comments on her stuff on fb to..I'm just worried if there is anything going on..what should i do to stop worrying.. over this and just relax?
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No, you are not wrong or jealous to be worried. You boyfriend told you he has feelings for someone else! Of course you're worried! And I think you should be. It is very rare for men and women to be "best friends" and not develop feelings for each other at some point. Not that SOME people can't be just friends, but just check out the other questions on this website if you don't believe me. Half of them are "I'm in love with my best friend" questions. Its only natural to develop feelings for someone of the opposite sex that you spend a lot of time with them. I'm assuming he didn't actually kill himself that night. Its my guess that saying dramatic things like that is his way of manipulating the situation. After all, how can you be mad at him if he's suicidal? Its a distraction for him from the real issue. And the real issue here is this - He cares for you, but he likes his friend. He doesn't want to hurt either of you. But that's a selfish choice. Really, what he's saying is "please don't think I'm a bad guy, I don't want to be the bad guy". I think there is more here than he is letting on. You sound very young, so I know its hard for kids your age to just be brutally honest, but you need to sit down with him and be as honest as you can. Try your best not to be emotional. Be calm, be reasonable, make sense. Ask him, calmly, if he needs some time apart to explore his feelings for his friend. You have to be willing to give him the space to do that if he says yes. It will hurt, but in the end it will all work out for the best. He may say he needs space and then realize that you're the one he TRULY wants when you're apart. You never know. But start by asking him if he needs space. And assure him that you don't want him to feel guilty or bad, you only want the truth, because that's what you deserve. I think you'll learn a whole lot more about him and his feelings depending on the way he answers the question. Good Luck.
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