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what should i do in this situation?
hi im 16,im a female nd i am pregnant from my boyfrien which i have been with for four years. when i was 1 month pregnat he left to mexico but promised to come back nd im 6 months he calls me mostly everyday to see how im doing...nd i just got back from visiting him like a month ago. he wants me to go live in mexico with him because he has no passport or anything to cross the border so he would have to cross ellegaly but i dont want to because i want to finish high school here. and sometimes i just feel like not talking to him anymore to see if it makes him come sooner so should i still wait for him to see what he decides to do?
thanks for you time.!
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You are in a very difficult situation. You're a young girl and now you need to make adult choices. That's just the way it is. So I'll tell you what a responsible adult would do in this situation. An adult would finish what they started (in your case, high school). An adult would do what is best for the future of their unborn child. The best thing for your baby would be to have two parents who are planning a good, stable future. Its hard to be apart right now, but there are too many risks for your boyfriend to get here right now. I'm sure its not because he won't, he just can't come. So try not to take it out on him. What if he were deported or put in jail? What would you and your baby do then? Stay here, finish school. Let your boyfriend work on coming here LEGALLY, so he can be a father that can be a good example for his child, by obeying the law and working hard to get the things you all need. You got pregnant way too young. Now you are dealing with the harsh consequences of that decision. An adult accepts the consequences of their actions and pushes through the tough times in order to have a better future. I promise, you can make it through this. Once your baby comes you may have a better idea of what you need to do. For now, sit tight. Keep working on school, and don't put any more pressure on your boyfriend than he already has. I'm sure he hates being away from you just as much as you do (after all, he does call you every day, right?), but he has no choice. You can do this. It will be hard, but its the hard times that makes us who we are. I wish you the best. It seems impossible right now but I promise everything will clear up soon. A lot of things are going to change once your baby is born. Just be patient and see how you feel after that. Good luck!
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