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I'm in college and have had many relationships in the past. I've loved and lost like everyone else, but I have taken it far to the point where I'm very closed off and barely let anyone near my heart. Everyone knows me as the independent single girl. It's started to bother me now, because I really want a boyfriend, or just a guy to confide in and have fun with. I'm never the girl that complains "I'm lonely", but honestly, I am now. I'm trying to open myself up, but my friends say I come off as very unapproachable. How can I get guys to see me as open and friendly? I smile more now and try to be more talkative, but still the feedback I get is that I'm cold and look like I don't want to be bothered, even though it's untentional. (20/F)
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Oh my god you sound exactly like me. I'm only 17 but honestly, you do sound like me. 2 years ago I was really cold towards people. not just guys in general. I was like that to everybody.. I don't remember when I realized I needed to change. But one day, I just decided that I want to be more social. Truth was, I didn't like the way my life was. I was in high school then and I felt like everyday was just so boring and pointless. I wanted to become more social and have fun in life. so here i am, 2 years later, junior in high school, and I've made a ton of new friends. You need to get out more.. That's what I did. like my life was so planned out. everyday i'd go to school, come home, do homework, go to sports practice, then come home and sleep. I never really went out and hung out with friends. But then I started going out more and having the time of my life.
so try that. try gathering a group of friends and just go out and have a girls night out. don't worry so much. let loose. I think your problem is that you're too tense. lighten up and just have fun! do whatever it is that makes you happy. go out and dance and sing karaoke or whatever. make a fool of yourself and laugh until you can't breathe.
then you need to push yourself. don't hesitate. make goals for yourself. for example- when you go out one night, tell yourself that you're gonna talk to at least 3 strangers before you go home. you gotta push yourself otherwise nothing will happen. you got to be motivated to become better.
smile, laugh, be friendly, and just let loose and be yourself. don't worry about the past. love like you've never been hurt. don't be scared to let new people in your life. do the things that scare you the most, you'll be surprised to see how much success you can make. also remember, smile every minute of every day because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
and 1 more thing- "take too many pictures, laugh too hard, be just a little too crazy, and love like you've never been hurt because every minute you spend mad or upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. "
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