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thankss :) ok i was with this kid for 2 yrs and 4 months. he left to the dominican republic and ovethere he ended up cheating on me with another girl. it hurted me alot because i lost my verginity to him i know i wasent supposed to do that,but i loved him too much and thought we were gonna last. :( i guess not.. before he left to the dominican republic he saw a [icture of me holding hands with a kid and closed but that wasent that much of a big deal.. but he said it was ok so wen he left he took pictures with a girl i was really mad.when he came back he told me that was his cousin which was ali because she said that was her man. right now they broke up..and now he looks for me to have sex and tahst it . i feel devasted becasue i try to get over him but i just cant..it hurts me alot and speacilly when i listen to a sad song :( please help me..if you were in thsi situation..i dont know wat to do..am only 17 and him too.
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First of all, you shouldn't have any contact with him ever again, and don't ever agree to have sex with him when he looks for you, and if he tries to talk to you, tell him to leave you alone and to never contact you again.
I will try to say this in the nicest way I can, but I have to be honest, he does not love you, he might have loved you one day and cared for you, but he no longer does. He is just simply using you now, for the sex, because he wants it, and because he can't find anyone to have it with, so don't stoop down your dignity and respect and allow him to sleep with you when he has hurt you so bad and is using you like that.
And it has nothing to do with the picture of the kid, if this had to do with anything, then he paid you back when he took pics with that other girl, whoever she was.
When someone loves someone, no matter how long or far they seperate or how distant they are, they never look to someone else, let alone have sex with someone else, then simply he doesn't really love you in the meaning of true love. And not only love, but respect too, he should respect you and respect your feelings and that your supposed to be his lover and for god's sake, losing your virginity to someone means this someone must have been so special to you and important that you actually gave him a part of you, and then that's the way he treats you? that's how he pays you back? how he loves you back? He doesn't care for you or love you. And when you come to think of all this, you are supposed to hate him, and feel so mad at him and angry, for how he hurt you and how he treated you and just cheated on you so easily like that. But your not going to think that way, i know you won't, because i know that no matter what he has done to you, you still have feelings for him and you still love him and sometimes you still miss him and want him and wish that everything was okay and you dream of him on sad songs, and you simply can't move on, and all that because your blinded with love, with you loving him so much, that you are refusing to see his flaws and faults. And this honey is called love, You love him, but its a shame, cause he's not worth it, and he doesn't deserve you. Imagine giving all this love to someone else who would deserve it and would love you back.
But the thing is, moving on is not just words i can write to you in advice, or something to say or do, and some people sometimes never move on at all. Moving on is not forgetting this someone or forgetting what you shared or losing your feelings to this person, but moving on is adapting and accepting what has happened and trying to live with it, and that's not something you can do at the spur of moment or the next morning, but its something that takes time, sometimes so much time, especially when you've shared with this person so much, but eventually you do.
Sometimes it helps you move on more quickly when you meet someone else, or occupy your time with something that can take your mind off all this, like hanging out with your friends, or being with your family, family is the most important thing, cause you might lose every single person in your life, but you will never lose your family no matter what happens or what you do. And try to focus on your studies or take up some activity, or basically just lead your life normally and stop thinking about it.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else, and if you need to talk more about this or if there are any new updates. Best of luck :D
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