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Boyfriend broke up with me a couple days ago
My boyfriend broke up with me out of no where.He said the reason for our break up was because he was "getting sick of me,we were around eachother way to much and he needed space and he started seeing me like a friend and that he doesn't like me as much as he used to"then he said that he swears on his life im the most amazing girl he's ever met. We hungout everyday,even like all night,all the time.We did fun things together,had so many jokes,we were just so attatched.Sometimes we fought,but got over it quick.He's even cried to me and told me he's never cried to anyone else.About a week before he broke up with me,he told me he needed more space and time without me and that was in effect for about 1 day and then i went back to being clingy and whatnot so I guess that's why he wanted to "take a break" or break up with me.I have strong hope that he's going to miss me because it's hard to just forget someone that you spent SO much time with over the last 3-4 months.He doesn't drive so I drove him everywhere and i did so much for him and he told me "i cared a little to much".I was thinking that he broke up with me during spring break ,when his brother came down from college (and he drives) and he's supposed to go up to college with him for a few days,so he's occupied for a week or so.I just have this gut feeling he's gonna miss having me there and doing eveyrthing for him because I did that before.His friends told him to never let me go and i told him that he's gonna regret it and he didn't deny that.I dont smoke,i get good grades,I'm what he wanted.Do you think maybe he'll miss me after his week with his brother and when we go back to school and reality hits again?
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Breaking up is hard to do, but I think you need to take a long hard look at this relationship. You did not talk about how you feel about this boy; instead, you focused on how much time you two spent together. It sounds like you enjoy being needed, which is okay, but it does not work for this relationship. However, you seem obsessed with his missing you, so I'm not sure that this relationship is entirely healthy.
If you examine your relationship and decide it is still worth pursuing, give him some breathing space, because it sounds like that is what the boy really wants. Maybe send him a SINGLE text or email saying that you are open to getting back together if he changes his mind, and that he can call you if he wants. Other than that, leave him alone for a week or two at least!
It sounds like the guy cared about you at least, so you may want to consider being just friends--you can still hang out and spend time together, but he won't feel obligated to do "boyfriend duties," so he might be happier. Who knows, maybe you will be too!
Finally, if he does decide he misses you and wants you back, agree to give him some space--and stick to it girl! Everyone needs "me time!" One idea is that you can sit down at the beginning of each week and figure out your schedules. Agree that you'll only spend a set amount of time together; for example, 2-3 evenings out of the week and one weekend afternoon. Be sure to schedule things to do apart. Try not to be clingy or needy--guys hate it. Pick up a hobby or renew some other friendships to give yourself other things to commit to.
Whatever path you choose, good luck!
~TD
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