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Getting over a guy
17/f
so I fell in love with this guy, Zack. Long story short... He is my boyfriends friend and we liked each other. We hung out a few times and after a few months with him, I know i love him. And I know it's wrong to date someone but love another person. I don't need the speech. But something just hit me about Zack. I really do love him. I care about him a lot and I CANT get him off my mind.
In January, Zack decided to act like a jerk and ignored me for a month. During that whole month, I couldn't get him off my
mind. I sent him so many texts and calls. But he still ignored me. Then in februrary he finally talked. He told me that he has been ignoring me because he knew it wouldn't work out. (there's a 2 year age difference). When I asked him if he loved me, he said a little bit. There's less communication. We talk like 2 times every week. And he always gives me 1 word answers. It's better than nothing right?
Anyways, I don't know what to do. I want to get over him because I know he's not worth my time. And he's only going to make everything worse. But how do I get over him. I've never felt this way about a guy. He won't get off my mind.. I love him so much.
I semi don't want to get over him because I want to fix things with him. Even if we were just friends. But friends are even working right now because he still doesn't talk to me as much and he just seems so uninterested sometimes. Other times he will laugh and smile (but still 1 word answers). So it's not like he's completely rude to me and stone cold. Sometimes he's nice, other times he says I bug him. I tried asking him what can I do to fix it, but he just says idk.
But I kinda already know that he doesn't want me and it won't work if I just want it.
What do I do??
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My friend had the same problem, here are some things she did to get over the guy that she had spent the last month or so thinking about 24/7. First off, talk to your friends. No guys, just regular gal friends whenever you feel like you wanna start thinking about this guy again. Your probably thinking about him so much because your either bored or a little lonely; getting wrapped up in different conversations will take your mind off things. Try reading some books, maybe taking a new class in school, and doing other things. Then, when you think your ready, start going out, like say ice skating with your friends. You might meet some new guys and, if not, still have a lot of fun. Hope this helps and good luck.
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3 words - let it go. I know it might seem harsh, but I really wish someone told me that straight up when I was still in love with my ex years ago, calling him all the time and wanting to just be near him. If you were someone else, reading what you just wrote.. what would you think/feel? What advice would you give this girl? I'm SURE you would say that she needs to move on and let this guy go, once and for all. Calling/texting him is not helping you, it's just hurting you and ruining ANY chance of having a friendship with this guy later on. He probably thinks you're annoying, because trust me, I was annoying way back and his guy friends told me that he thought I was psycho! Imagine what he says about what you're doing. Cutting off communication is the first and biggest step. Do not talk to him, call him, text him, etc. You will never get over him if you don't, end of story. From what you say, he does not want to work things out. His word one answers? Well, they speak volumes. He's not interested anymore. Why would you want to waste your time on this guy! He might be amazing and the one guy you've loved, but it's over. We can't force someone to love us, or like us, or to take us back. I don't understand why you even let him tell you you bug him.. that should have been the last straw. Take a deep breath and realize you are too good for this, you deserve someone to think you're perfect. You deserve so much more than one word answers and on/off communication. Tell yourself that it's time to dust yourself off, and leave him in your past. Life's short, so love someone who will love you back.
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