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I tried thinking I was normal but not helping. things around me keep getting worse yesterday my bestfriend jumped my boyfriend my boyfriend sliced his neck with scissors so my friend needed four stitches now he refuses to talk to me at all he's completly ignoring me. He was my best friend and has been for three years and we have been through way worse stuff together and he's never just left like this. I'll admit he has told me he loves me And wants to be together and I have feelings for him too and may want to be with him but I was in a abusive relationship and I'm scared to be with him in case so I stay with my current boy friend he has hit me but only a couple times and it's ok I deserve it. I just don't know what to do anymore I'm so scared and I miss my friend I just wanna be able to talk to him again... What should I do..
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Okay first of all, um no... you don't deserve it! Don't even think like that because thats not fair at all. Before you can start feeling like you deserve to be alive and well, you have to stop feeling like you ever deserve for someone to abuse you. ever. ok? I've never been in an abusive relationship, so I am probably not one to talk in that area, but no one deserves to get hit, ever. By parents, or friends or boyfriends, it doesn't matter, you mean way way way more than that. No matter what you did to "deserve" it. Theres nothing in the world that deserves someone who is probably way bigger and way stronger than you taking physical force on you. sorry, I just feel like you don't deserve that at all :(
anyway... just to clarify, because of a previous abusive relationship (not the boyfriend you're with now right?) you are scared to be with your best friend because you are afraid he might be abusive?
why did you're best friend jump your boyfriend? was it because of something that your boyfriend did or was it because he likes you?
okay, so your friend isn't talking to you right? well if that just happened yesterday, maybe give it a day or two. if he's your best friend he'll come back, especially if he's been there for you through a lot. Just have faith and he will come back. okay?
maybe while he's not talking to you, you should consider whats going on in your mind about the guys around you. just because you've been in one abusive relationship doesn't mean that all guys will hit you (though, on the other hand doesn't mean only some guys do, so I guess you just have to figure out which kind of guy your friend is). and you have to figure out where you are as far as your boyfriend, whether or not you wanna be with him right?
I know everything seems really rough right now, and I'm sure it is really bad, but you can pull through this. think of all of the things in your life that you have overcome, I admire your strength and courage so far. you can get through this and even though you feel really alone and scared you will make it through this and everything will work its way out soon. you just have to take everything one day at a time and keep asking for help if you need it (*cough, I'm here for you babe!<3). You are a really really amazing person and no matter what happens, always keep that in mind. You're important and there are people out there who care about you and want to see you make it through all of this.
I know I can't have been that much help... but keep asking me questions if you want cause I care about you already and want to make sure you are doing okay.
Good luck with everything and just remember how amazing you are.
Angie <3
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