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Sunday June 28 2009, 12:42 am...thats when you answered it about the whole ex coming back thing. i thought you gave really good advice and wanted to ask you more. well after going on the date with him we started hanging out alot and basically, i slept over his house..didnt have sex but hooked up alot. anyways, the next day he made sure i understood that he wanted no kind of relationship. i was crushed. honestly it sucked. but it made me recover quickly. a boy came into the picture and was a friend first so he helped heal alot. we began dating and 4 months into it started being sexually active. the boy is great and i really do have STRONG feelings for him. maybe even love. but everyonce in a while i think about my ex. and the new boyfriend had a bad problem with pills and lied to me about them at first. i found out when we started getting serious because he tried to quit and was going through withdrawls. he has successfully quit now. but now my ex knows and has been saying he wants better for me and recently confessed to the fact that he wants me back. and the stupidest mistake was breaking up with me twice. i just am so unsure on how i should feel. it feels so good to talk to him but i feel guilty. we have awesome conversations. but i love my new boyfriend and dont want to decieve him. my ex could just be playing games again. its just lately ive been liking the attention my ex is giving to me and remembering how he was always there for me which my new boyfriend is kind of bad at..idk just try to give me some words of advice. please and thank you!!!!!!!
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wow that is a tough situation to be in. on one hand, you have a new boyfriend that you may love and you guys really communicate. plus, he helped you heal from your other breakup, which means he truly cares about your feelings and emotions.
on the other hand, your ex, whom you DID love, wants you back. you mentioned the fact that you said he might be playing games again. exes do tend to jump back to their old girlfriends if they get into a new relationship and start comparing the two girls, or if their old girlfriend gets a new boyfriend, especially if the new boyfriend has faults. then the ex will get jealous and start using phrases like "you deserve better" and "he's not good enough." but most of the time, from past experiences, its just pure jealousy. even if he dumped you. he may not even still love you, but he'll just feel better about himself.
what you need to realize, is that its too late for your ex. he basically used you when you stayed the night at his house, and you don't seem like the type who would go for a "friends with benefits" deal. i'm not either. he missed his chance, and now that you're finally happy again, he's trying to get you confused and to dump your bf to try things with him again. but what if things don't work out with him? what if he IS just playing you? then what do you say to your current boyfriend? "hey, sorry i just wanted to see if he still loved me and he didn't, so you and i can get back together now!"? its not fair to the person who has been by your side since you and your ex broke up.
what i would do if i were you, is stay with who i'm with. he truly loves you and doesn't seem like he'd ever do anything to hurt you. he helped you heal from your terribly breakup, and now you guys seem really close, and that's healthy. what ISN'T healthy, is keeping yourself guessing with mr.-on again-off again. you'll get confused, and end up getting hurt all over again. you can still be friends with him if you feel necessary. but i wouldn't go back out with him. you never know. things may change, and you and your bf might break up, and your ex may still claim to want you back. and then it would be okay to slowly develope another relationship with him. but right now, be happy with the guy that makes you happy. :) and feel free to message me anytime with any other questions. good luck.
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