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am i being too pushy?
17/f ok i've always been chased, i've never ever chased after a boy. but there was this boy who was new to my school & i always thought he was cute but never talked to him. everyone said how he was like awkward & kind of weird. but i like weird. i think its interesting. anyway, i found his myspace like a week ago. he accepted me & i said like hi you have good taste in music & we started talking that weekend on myspace, & then he asked for my number. & we talked for like maybe 2 hours texting? & it was good. & then then the next day he didn't text me & i was bummed. so the next day, my friend was like just text him. so i did, & we had like a really great conversation, we have a lot in common, & he asked me to hang out that night. but it was like wednesday, & i'm still in school & it was late, so i couldn't. so i told him i couldn't but that would've been cool. & then yesterday, my friend told me to just text him & ask him to hang out this weekend so i did & he asked me like what i was doing, when, & the time. & i told him & he was like ok shounds good. i might have to work but earlier. so i mean was that a yes? or what. i mean, if he doesn't text me.. do i just assume its no? or should i text him like tomorrow when were suppose to hang out & be like so can you hang out tonight? or is that too pushy. like i don't know how to handle it, because i mean i'm starting the conversations, but i feel like hes making a lot of big moves, like with hanging out & asking for my number. so its just been like a rollar coaster this past week. one day i'm like so happy & then the next its like a really bad day.
so what do i do?
my main question is should i text him if he can still hang out? or no? & any other help is appreciated. :)
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ooh, i know how you feel :] ive been through this type of situation before.. and youre definetely right, it is exactly like a rollercoaster hahaa.
but heres what you do..
he asked you to hang out and you couldnt because it was during the week and you have school, totally okay and not your fault. but he might have felt like a bit of rejection and backed off. [guys are sensitive too haha, they just dont show it as much] by you declining his invitation to hang out, he was basically waiting for you to come to him and to ask HIM to hang.. so you would have to make the plans and everything. which you did, but those plans werent made in stone because he didnt give you a clear answer..
i got your information right so far i hope :] hahaa. sorry if im confusing youu. but heres the thing, dont just assume its a "no" and that he doesnt want to hang out, because if he didnt want to chill with you, he would have never asked you to hang out with him first. thats a 100% fact.
text him tomorrow, thats not being pushy at all because youre just making sure hes up for it. you could text him and be like, "hey :] i dont know if you remember the other day when i mentioned hanging out tonight.. you up for it? i was thinking.. [then list time and place]"
thats the best way to do it because its not as if youre being pushy or clingy or anything. its low key and chill. he seems like a very reserved person though so dont let that bring you down or make you think that he doesnt want to talk to you. and him not texting you first or not making conversation will take time and patience. alot of boys dont know what to say or dont know what the right thing to say will be.. theyll get the hang of it after talking to you for longer but its less intimidating for them if you start the conversations first because then theyll just go with the flow and become more comfrotable and outspoken. some guys are just like that :] nothing to have a bad day over. perfectly normal.
and give yourself some credit too ! youre making some big steps with asking him to hang out and all of that. :] i mean, you could tease him a little bt and be like, "pshh youre not much of a conversation starter are youu ;] just kidding i dont mind" and he'll open up soon enough.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] xxo.
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