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i have a problem again with the same guy :[
so yesterday my phone accidently called my ex and he texted me and was like what and im like huh? and hes like why did you call and im like sorry my phone did. i didnt mean to. and hes like ok bye then
and im like so youre not gonna even talk to me..
and hes like why and im like um i dont know maybe talk to me like a normal friend and hes like i cant and im like why and hes like i dont know i just cant and im like i dont know what i did but thats cool i guess. and hes like you made out with another guy while i was tihnking about get back together with you. and im like and im like im sorry but i didnt know that and blah blah blah and hes like i told you i was thinking about it. and im like ok welll im sorry. stuff happens sometimes.
and hes like what will you do for me to forgive you and we were talking and stuff and he told me to send him some pictures. and i realllllllly didnt want to and im like you cant come back to me again and expect me to give you pictures whenever you want becuase he dont deserve them either. so we were talking and stuff and of course i gave in and sent him some. but i asked for some in return.
and then im like i miss you. and hes like i miss you too. and im like why are you all of a sudden talking to me after two weeks of ignoring me. and hes like i dont know im still mad at you but i dont know. and im like im still mad at you too. and hes like why and im like because you found another girlfriend and hes like well yeah but you made out with another guy. and im like while we werent together!
and im like if you have another girl then why did you ask me for all these pictures. and hes like funny and were friends (i dont know waht he meant by that) and im like then if were just friends then why didnt you just get this stuff from your girlfriend. i feel so dumb right now. and hes like i could but i just wanted to see if you could do it. and im like wow thanks.
and then i get a text back saying that it really wasnt my ex and that he was actullay sleeping and that it was really his friends the whole time.
i honestly dont believe that. i know the way he says stuff and texts and stuff and i got pictures of him.
his \"friend\" was calling me dumb and stuff and hes like his girlfreind is here now and she thinks this is so funny and all this stuff.
and im like go wake him up right now and tell him to call or text me. and then i get a text saying hey sorry my friends were tlaking to you and they were stupid for doing that. i deleted all the pictures and he said all this stuff.
(i could tell it was like set up or something or like he was lying but he wont tell me the truth)
and im like go be with your girlfreind bye. and hes like it really wasnt her she was sleeping. and he just told me she was laughing at all this. so i dont know what to believe.
and then i texted him later that night adn i was like i cant sleep. and hes like dont let my friend gets to you. im sorry. you really are one of my good friends. i can tlak to you about anything.
and im like but thats not what i want and you know that! i want to be more then just friends and i got so happy cause i thought we were going to get back together
and hes like that wasnt me. what do you not get?!
and im like ok i understand.
im like i want you back. i miss you. why do you have to havea girlfreidn. and hes like you pushed me away.
and then i just gave up and went to sleep cause it was like 3 in the morning anyways. and i texted him earlier today and im like so are we just friends or is there gonna be something more? and hes like just friends.
god i hate myself for falling for that. i know it wasnt his friends. and i know it was him the whole time.
but why would he do that?
im so confused. i feel so gross and dirty for doing all that and actually falling for him agian after just starting to get satisfied with my life.
im sooooo sorry for how long and confusing this is!
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its okay :] you dont have to apologize for anything girl, its totally fine.
and yeah, that whole thing was definitely an entire set up. he wanted to, once again, get a rise out of you, but he also wanted you to send him pictures, mainly so he can look at them, but also to know that he still has a hold of you and that you still want him. he enjoys knowing that you havent let him go. and im pretty sure he asked you for pictures because he knew that his girlfriend wouldnt AND when he said, "i could but i just wanted to see if you could do it." that is a major e-go boost for him. he was using you to get what he wanted.
and on top of that, he made up the lies about his friends being there so that he could act all innocent and make you still like him and believe that its not him thats the asshole, but its his firends who are. and notice how quickly that all happened.. he most likely got scared that you would retaliate and tell his girlfriend what he asked you to do and the things he said to you and then he would most likely be dumped.. so he made up a sotry tha his girlfriend was there to..
number 1: make you jealous.
number 2: make you think that his girlfriend was there so it would be "pointless" for you to tell her because she was in on the "joke"
obviously, hes scared and wanted an excuse to talk to you so that he could get pictures of you and use you [as i said before]
but dont feel gross and dirty.. you arent. youre still not fully over him yet and that one little glimmer of hope that he would come back to you made you want to do whatever you could that you thought would guarentee him to want you again. it happens to alot of girls who fall for the wrong guys.. theyll do or say anything the guy wants if theres even a small chance of getting back together or getting together. and guys do it too. but the only thing im going to say is, just dont send pictures. who knows who hes showing it too and who knows who he'll send them too. f hes lying about everything else, he's potentially lying about "deleting" the photos. jsut no pitures. if a guy wants pictures, dont give in. youre stronger than that, i know you are sweetie.
and my advice to you is to just delete him from your phone.. delete his contact information or if you dont want to delete him, rename him as "dont talk to him" or "asshole" or "dont answer" because he is an asshole. you shouldnt talk to him. and you shouldt answer him. he doesnt even deserve anything from you. NOTHING. youre better than him and you can DO so much better than him.
and if you really want to get him back, i would say tell his girlfriend what went down.. but this may cause alot of drama and lies [that he will tell] so if you want to avoid all of that, then dont do it.. but its just a siggestion. but if youd like to tell him off for what he did to you, i say go for it. hes stupid and thinks your gullible, which youre not. just tell him to leave you alone an eff off.
then move on and be happy you will never have to deal with him again, and leave that to his girlfriend or any of his future girlfriends. hes the guys we try to avoid, and im so sorry he did this to you. he is honestly the biggest jerk ever. you dont deserve any of that, youre an awesome person. and i promse that soon enough, youll be back to your normal, happy, self.
good luck ! hope i helped, and you kow the drill.. if you need anything else, im here :] xxo.
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