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Inadequacy
I don't know why, but I always feel inadequate in front of my friends. I always look at myself and tell myself that I do have substance, but I feel that I come short in front of people. I never feel that I'm smart enough, successful enough, lucky enough, happy enough, or even pretty enough. I've had this inferiority complex for as long as I can remember, and although I try to overcome it by positive self talk or exercise, the feelings keep coming back. Whenever I try to have an optimistic outlook for the future, something negative happens. It's like happiness isn't meant to be for me. A person can be persistent for so long, and I do know that some people have to work harder than others, but I'm afraid my work will not pay off. There is always something inside me telling me that companionship is not in my future. How can I rid these feelings of inadequacy?
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I don't know how old you are, but I'll bet a lot of those "smart, lucky, successful enough" people you compare yourself to have many of the same thoughts. It's not uncommon at any age.
When such thought arise, how do they feel? Like a sinking feeling in your stomach? Just what? The feeling, and even the thought itself, has some deeper root. Try tracing it back. When's the first time you felt like this? Why?
We all tell ourselves stories. It's like a tape recording running in our head. The truth is, these stories are often not true, or only somewhat true.
"My life has been full of terrible misfortune," Mark Twain the writer said, "most of which never happened." So it goes with stories we make up about ourselves.
You worry about your hard work not a paying off. It will pay off, in time, but maybe not in ways you expect or even fully understand. Such is the mystery. Stay open to it all.
There once was a football coach who was fired from a college job. His dream job, he thought. It was devastating.
But 20 years later, he was one of the top coaches for the Green Bay Packers when that team won the Super Bowl. If he had not been fired years before, there would have been no Super Bowl for him.
Your friends have the same insecurities you do. Start by being your own best friend, and come to know your best friend well.
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My advice to you is to see a conuseler or see a family doctor and they can point you in the right direction. I have always felt that way too. I understand what you are going though. I have a therapist and it seems to help. We each have our own path to walk down. Seeing someone will help a lot. Something may happen and you may just give up and feel you always have to live this way and turn out to be an unhappy person for the rest of your life. When you really don't have to be. You have every right to happiness as anyone else. Every single person you meet has there own demons just some people hide them better than others. So remember your just like everyone else. I hope this helped and good luck.
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