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I don't know...I think things have changed.
My boyfriend and I have been together 3 months today. When we first started out, he was always really sweet and he'd always say sweet things. Then, we started getting a little more "sexual" I guess you could say. We didn't really go on "dates" we'd just sneak out and go do stuff, but he still was really sweet and it wasn't just because we did stuff, he was just genuinely sweet. We started discussing sex and I told him that I want to wait, and he said he'd wait for me to be ready, but we both knew it was a possibility. Well, I kept changing my mind on the sex issue, because I was afraid if we had sex, our relationship would be boring because there would be nothing to look forward to. So I guess he finally got tired of chasing that dream, because we don't talk about it as much. Actually, we don't really talk about much of anything. We'll be texting things like "Ok cool :b" back and forth and it's just overall a very stale discussion. On the other hand, when we get to hang out and do things, it's really fun and it makes me so happy just to be with him. Like, we don't even have to be talking when we're together alone. But now, I've been having this weird gut feeling. I think he might be too. This is the first time I don't want to tell him what's on my mind because in the past we were always able to talk things out. I feel like I'm bottling something up, something negative, but I don't know what it is. And on top of this stuff that's already going on, my friend just got a new boyfriend and they remind me of how my boyfriend and I used to be. He's really sweet and she's so happy and he never says anything mean to her. My boyfriend...I don't know whenever we're together alone, everything is perfect. But when we're in public, he can be kind of mean to me. Like, he'll say he's just kidding, and I know he's just kidding, but I want him to be sweet instead. How do I bring all of this up to him? I'm really afraid that if I bring it up, he'll think I want to break up with him and I don't. I don't want to lose him, I really do love him. I just am so confused about all of my feeling right now, I don't know what to do. Please help me.
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Any advice that any of us could give you would not be accurate.. because YOU and HIM are in the relationship. None of us are. Our advice could only do so much, but what about saying all you just wrote, to him? Let him know that you do not want to break up, that you want to make sure things are ok and that he's ok. Ask him if he needs to get anything off his chest and say what's on your mind. If you keep quiet, things will get worse or your mind & heart will go crazy and go into overload! It's always the best idea to talk things out. Bottling up feelings and emotions just gets worse with time.. small things turn into big things. It's great that he seems like he's a good guy, since he's waiting until your ready and he's sweet most of the time. The funny thing about relationships, is in the beginning, it's new and exciting.. you're still trying to impress the other person and you're on your best behavoir. As they grow and develop, they tend to get "boring" to a point because you know eachother and are used to eachother.. which is NOT a bad thing. Settling in and not taking AS MUCH as you did in the beginning happens in relationships. Just talk to him, you'll feel better afterwards.
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