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k so last summer around july went to a beach in mexico on a 5 day trip with some friends, im 20 , hes 21 , we met this guys from uk and end up kissing with one of them, then ran into them the next day at a different club, and next day one of my friends asked one of the guys their hotel room so we can call and meet the next day at a different club met the next day at a different club the past 3 days been kissing with the same guy his brother accidentally mentioned he had a girlfirend , but this guy said he didnt, i decided to ignore it since i didnt plan to even spoke to him again after the 5 day trip since we live THOUSANDS of km apart so theres no point and we met at a beach ,anyway so that day we went to the beach like at 5am after the club we all went there and had a great time , we were not all together, i was with this guy and my friends with some other , but appart..anyway we decided to meet on our last day in there ( they were staying for a nother week and we were going back to our city ) the beach is in my country , not in my city, and they are from another country. anyway so the last night he wanted to have sex but he was real drunk , told him i wouldnt have sex with him even if we found a hotel cause we had a problem with me getting in his hotel cause i was not staying there and he couldnt go to mine either , i said no because im not the kind of person who has sex with someone i just met less than a week ago , he was okay with it and since it was my last day he asked for my number and email , i didnt wanted to give it to him cause it was pointless so he managed to find a pen at the club and made me write my number and email in his arm and in a little paper since he didnt wanted to loose it , so we left and left my friends and the others at the club, and went to the beach late at night like 4am , had a great time just talking , walking , joking , so finally had to go back to my hotel cause it was like 6am and my plane was leavin in 2 hours. when i got back to my city i left to another country on vacation with my family...and the guy who was still at my country called me i was so surprised he did cause i really didnt thought he would .. next day he called again,,,and the next day ,,and the next day ,,,AND the next day ,,he asked me to add him to msn so i did when i got back to my country.. he didnt call anymore BUT he did texted me like probably 5-10 times a day everyday for the next 2 months probably and kept talking on msn everyday for hOURS then he asked if i knew he had a gf...and i said i did cause i heard his brother saying it , and he asked why i still decided to make out with him i said cause i didnt thought this thing between us was going to last beyond the second day we kissed and i didnt thought he would call, add me on msn, or text me when i left the beach..and he said he wasnt a cheater but he really liked me and he wouldnt do it if we were together, still i gave him the choice to stop texting me cause i didnt wanted to get him in trouble with his gf he said it was fine , that his gf was crazy he didnt care. (found out they were together for about 2 years and a half ) so one day the girl texted me ..saying he had a gf and that he lied to me and begging me to stop talking to him, i said he didnt lie, i knew he had a gf and hes the one who decided to keep in touch with me , not me , this caused them to broke up he said he didnt care and didnt even knew if he wanted to get back with her , anyway so we continued talking and texting everyday,, i think they got back together cause the girl started texting me lots more times now from her phone and insulting me ,calling me a slut and stuff when i was not the one trying to look for a hotel at 5 am at a diff country ¬¬ ..so we kept talking , and suddenly he stoped talking to me , and i didnt try to talk to him...i assumed he was really trying to make it work between them ..so i was fine with it ..then after about 3 weeks not talking at all or text or anything. he sent me an email just like asking how was i doing and what i've been up to and stuff i reply and he didnt wrote back, then didnt knw anything about him for another w weeks and then another email...and then again ...like we stoped talking everyday but every 2 weeks he wrote me an email just like checking how was i doing . its been a month since he and i havent spoken not even an email. and just all of a sudden he went online and talked to me just for like 20 min , quick stuff like catching up how you been? hows school , told me about his job and then he had to leave and it was nice speaking to me soon.....anyway what i mean is ..its been almost 5 months since we met, we only met for 5 days ,,kept talking a lot the first 3 months , fone, texts, msn,, and all of a sudden stoped talking but he randomly emailed me just like quick updates,,, i DONT GET IT if he's trying to stop talking to me why does he still wants to "keep in touch" by checking how im doing? i mean we dont talked like we used to but its like every 2 weeks he wants me to know hes still alive hahah if you know what i mean, i dont get it , like whats the point of all of it ?? this is not what you would expect from someone you ramdomly hooked up in some foreign country and you might never see the person again, proabbly next summer cause they all want to come back to the same beach and told me we should schedule the same dates cause ill be prolly going on summer too.......anyway sorry if it was long theres no way to sumrize it just wanna know your opinion about it ..
*note: we never had a long distance relationship or anythng like that
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its best to keep rule # 1 in front of you a rule our parents told us Dont talk to strangers
I dont mean not to socialize i mean you can get a feeling inside you ...that feeling that says someothing doesnt smell right. If you did hear someone mention that he has a girlfriend then that was your answer not clue or hint but your answer to say to yourself wait why am i behaving this way? No one can force you or obligate you to give him your info..now days its more important to flirt and be wild than to really think ahead of what may come. He wanted sex and you most likely would have had sex even though you said you dont have sex that early but you do have sex and he did feel led on. Im not trying to lecture you so forgive me for giving that impression but the best thing you can do at this point is do not talk to him anymore, who knows what about him he does or he doesnt have a girlfriend ...i dont know!? Now if you had a boyfriend and he did what you did what would you feel? think? react? and do? i bet youd appreciate it if other folks would be smart not to give some random guy a lead and kissing a stranger? someone that you met in a bar doesnt mean much ....and someon mentioning he has a girl and you ignoring it that way ...in my opinion isnt very wise...like i said ignore him move one and try to learn from this to improve you life and avoid future trouble. Even though i know you will more than likely low grade me its ok and i really hope this helps
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