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he said 'i love you' during sex
19/f
My boyfriend and I were having sex before bed the other night and he said 'i love you'. He's the type to talk dirty and usually loudly, which he had been, and then between kisses he kind of muttered 'i love you' and i guess the time it took me to sort of freak out in my head was too long of a wait for him and he resumed his loud dirty talk. Unfortunately, i said 'i love you too' at the same time and am unsure if he heard me reply. This could mean one of two things, he didn't hear me and thinks i don't mean it, or he did hear me and is possibly freaking out because it was a slip of the tongue.
If he had said it prior to this situation, I wouldn't be freaking out as much, but it's because it was the first time we said it, and I'm not sure how accurate the statement is during sex. We do care about eachother, I know that for a fact, but we've never used the L word before, which is why I'm worried. Worried in the sense that 'did he mean it?' and also in the sense that if he didn't mean to say it, is he freaked that i responded positively to his freudian slip.
thanks in advance.
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Well from experience it sucks balls when it's confusing...
I said it once accidentally and god was it hard and confusing.
Look if you love him and you are sure about it then be straightforward and tell him that but ask him if he meant it first because it would suck if you say it and then he doesn't say it back or if you say it and then he says it back just because he doesn't want you to feel bad.
But if you don't love him then if he said he meant it, then tell him exactly how you feel, and exactly so you don't have to hurt him.
Look I had this thing with my ex which we can say "I love you" but it doesn't mean we are in love just so, while having sex or talking on the phone we say "I love you" it sounds better than "I like you", you can do that so if you felt like saying "I love you" it only means you like him but you have to specifically say "I'm in love with you" which means you are in love with him.
Extra tip: You have been dating for two months and I think that's not very long for the 'in love' part and you should take it slow
Good Luck =]
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I would sit down with him in the next few weeks to see if he ment it of not. The only way that you are going to know for sure is if you ask him. Most men dont say that for the first time during sex. I have to wonder how long the two of you have been together. It could be that he really loves you and he thought that during sex was the best time to tell you. I would really just ask him if he ment it... goog luck...!!!
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well maybe you should try seting up a situwashion where you can tell him you love him and sea his replie but not during something that is sexually erosing for him so for example while watching a romantic film or at the dinner table while he is telling you about his day
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