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How to handle a "player"
I have been with the same person for the past five years. Just a few months ago he informed me that he was engaged to someone else. I told him I loved him & his reply was that, I was never more to him but a piece of a##. He has devestated me & ruint my reputation over his actions. I still love him. Is there away to turn the tables on him? I guess maybe I'm niave because I'm 50 years old & I have never had anyone, treat me with such desrespect or abuse. Any input on how to handle this???
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Hi,
If he was with you for five years, then maybe he only thought of you as a good friend.. then when he found a girl he really liked, he kind of just bombed you without realizing what he had done. Guys can be pretty clueless. Did he know you loved him throughout those years? Or was it sudden news to him when you told him just lately? That could have been what made the situation the way it did.
If he is engaged... I don't know if it possible to turn the tables unless they don't get married or get married then have a divorce.
If you want to be with him, you have to tell him firmly how he hurt you, try to find his positive side, start a friendship again, and then see if you could get together sometime just for a coffee or something.
Ask if you can start fresh after that, as if you just met again.
If he is a nice guy, then he will at least be your friend again. Not everyone is meant to be together, but at least friends.
Communicate, restart, forgive, forget, move on (as in get past the incident).
Hope this helped <3
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