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ex boyfriends baby (long sorry)
16/f
hes 20/m
alright, me and my boyfriend broke up about 2-3 months ago. if it was a normal circumstance, i could just tell him to f*ck off and leave me alone... but i cant, im havin his kid :/
i broke up with him because he was very manipulative, he lied (even tho he wouldnt admit it, it was obv) about the stupidest stuff like winning fights all the time and where he was, he kept me on a leash, he ALWAYS talked about how many girls wanted him to make me jealous, hed always accuse me of cheatin and turn everything around on me. i couldnt take it anymore !
but i found out i was pregnant with his kid, and then he wouldnt leave me alone. i told him just to give me some time to breathe and then id call him. the first month hed call me every 3 days to a week. he didnt understand i just need some time by myself, because im the kind of person who needs to sit and think about things for a while before i act on it.
finally i agreed to let him over my house FOR A LITTLE WHILE so we could talk about things. basically, he just came over to win me back!! which i made it a point that i would not ever ever get back with him. he starts makin a scene and cryin to me... then tellin me that he cheated on me so many times. when i didnt have a reaction he said he was kidding... then he went on to say he did indeed cheat on me...then took it back again... THEN, hes like 'well can i call this girl im talkin to from your phone?' and im like 'YES if youll leave after that'. so he calls her...but it ends up not bein a girl he was talkin to but his ex girlfriend that has aboyfriend who hes NOT talkin to. WHAT THE HELL!?
so finally after 5 hours of him not leavin, i finally get him outside the door. hes like 'will you kiss me?' and i said 'NO! leave pleaseeee' (im cryin and exhausted because he just wont leave). and then he says 'well, if i cant have you..then have a nice life.' and i said 'oh youre not gonna be in your kids life? okay...' then he forcefully grabs my arm and says 'call the judge call the cops i dont care im dippin somewhere' and i just said 'okay, good luck with that.' turned around and tried to close the door.
then he wont let me close the door and starts yellin into my house, i dont even really remember what he was sayin because i was so mad. but i was just yellin 'PLEASEEE LEAVE PLEASE I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!' and then finally my mom had to come out. he still wouldnt leave. finally my step dad came out and pushed him out the door.
now he keeps callin to come over and im like 'hell no after what you did at my house...' but he wont leave me alone. he sends me messages on myspace talkin to the baby!!! its soooo weird and i just get stresssed out everytime i hear his name.
now i think hes like crazy, and i dont want my kid goin over his house all the time. he thinks hes gonna see it everyday or somethin, sayin he 'doesnt wanna be a weekend dad'. and i cant handle seein him that much, ill go nuts!
someone help me find a nice way to tell him to back off... i cant keep ignorin his calls but he just stresses me out so much its not healthy for me or the baby.
THANKS :(
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Okay breathe...
All I can say is if he is manipulative than good for you for ending the relationship. Nobody needs to be manipulated and told what to do all the time. You have a child on the way, You need to put your focus on that child because the more you stress yourself out the higher the chances of a miscarriage. If this guy won't back off than you might want to seek a restraining order against him in the meantime. I hate too tell you but from the sound of it this is something that might very well become a matter of the court. If you need time to yourself than you deserve to take time off for awhile. This guy needs to back off and the next time he steps a foot on the property warn him to leave and if he doesn't than have him escorted off by your parents or the police. If you think it is best than BLOCK him, Don't answer his calls, text or none of that. This guy sounds like an immature ass who needs a reality check. You are pregnant and anymore of his childish behavior can put you and that child at risk. Sometimes people change after a breakup and their true colors start to show. Does he sound like father material? If you ask me...No he doesn't. In the meantime remember you can be the role model, the mother, The hero...and always remember that mother is god in the eyes of a child.
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21/m here.
I'm not sure how much this helps, but this may very well be best handled in a court case. As the barer of his child, you hold the best interest in the welfare of your child. If he becomes too out of hand, first block him in all ways possible. (myspace, messengers, by phone). Next, obtain a restraining order. He'll be penalized if he even attempts to contact you. He's going to learn very quickly that he's not the one making the choice of whether or not he becomes a "weekend dad". There are a number of options out there. There is NOOO way he should be able to continually herass you like this. Stress can be terrible for an unborn child's well being. I hope I was able to help.
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