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a two year relationship and I'm just not feeling it anymore..what do I do?
My boyfriend and I have been together for right at 2 years..as a matter of fact our anniversary is in a week.He's 17,I'm 18.
During the whole two years I have been the one to keep everything together. I have fought and fought to keep the relationship going, through all kinds of crap he's put me through..like seriously, you wouldn't even believe what I've put up with.Usually we spend every waking hour together, but for the past month he has been out of town a lot visiting family and he's come back for like two days at a time every week or so. I've spent a lot of time alone and just with family the past month since he's been gone and had a lot of time to just think..and I guess all the sudden the past two years kinda just caught up with me and suddenly I just feel suffocated. I just don't feel anything anymore. The bad part is that he has been so sweet the past month or so and hasn't really done anything crazy like usual, so it's really a bad time for me to feel this way cause I don't really have a reason to end it right now, ya know? So anyway..sorry this is so long but I just wanted to give an outlook on what our whole relationship has been like. I don't know what to do..but he's home for a week or so now, and soon he won't be going out of town anymore, and I just find myself dreading it..I look forward to him leaving.
somebody tell me what I'm supposed to do please!
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Well, i think that maybe you guys were spending too much time together. In relationships, its always good to not be around each other too much, that way you don't get this feeling, that way you don't get sick of each other. You want to have some time away from each other, not too long though or not too short, that way you miss each other, and that way when you do see each other its that much more meaningful. You guys might need a break. That way you guys can cool off, get back together and then just see if you still feel the same about it or if you end up missing him. Two years is a long time, and if you were to leave him, after a while you would feel like, awe :(...i miss him :(....but i think that you guys need to take a break..if you still feel the same after the break, then you know that you should break it off.
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This can all go several ways.
You may find that when he comes back, it was all just a phase you were going through. You were just enjoying your freedom.
It could also be that you guys need to back off for a bit. Have separate lives; hang out with your own friends, do stuff on your own. You shouldn't have to spend every waking hour with your boyfriend. Heck, I don't spend every waking hour with my fiance, and I live with him!
Things may also have fizzled out. You may not have noticed it until you rediscovered what it is to not have to dedicate all your time to him. This is normal; it's not that you don't love him, it's just that you've grown apart. You're at an age where you will be changing a lot as a person. It's silly to expect that you'll want the same sort of person at 18 that you wanted at 15.
Just because you've spent 2 years with him doesn't mean you need to spend the rest of your life with him! Wait it out for a while after he comes back, and see what you want. Try spending more time apart from each other, see if that helps.
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