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hey damian.16f im going to assume something so if im wrong just let me know.. but your at least 18 so im going to assume your not a virgin.. so what i wanted to know is when a guy has sex for the first time, does it hurt them at all? or feel really good? or what is the feeling
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Having sex for the first time can be very intimidating, especially for guys. There is a lot of pressure and anxiety to deal with. Most of the time, people simply don't know what to do, much less what to expect. For girls, I can pretty much guarantee you that it will hurt during your first time. It will be a combination of breaking your hymen and getting your muscles to stretch out. Just know that even though your body will need time to adjust, and after you've had sex a few more times, the discomfort will decrease and you can start playing around and enjoying yourself.
I speak for myself only, because just like girls can have VERY different experiences having sex (some can have multiple orgasms, while others can't at all!) the same applies for guys. When it's a guy's first time, he will have a pretty hard time figuring things out. Plenty of things can go wrong: pressing too hard, coming in at the wrong angle, trying to make you feel good. It will be just as uncomfortable for the guy, especially if you don't know how to position yourselves. Most of all, if the guy cares about you a lot, then he'll be under a lot of pressure to make you feel good. Communication is absolutely critical if you want to have good experiences together. Let him know what feels good and what doesn't. Believe me, any guy would be glad to have instructions as to how to make you happy. Generally, those are smaller things to worry about. With lots of good communication, you can figure out together and make sex fun and enjoyable.
Otherwise, I'd say that having sex for the first time, while it SEEMS like a big deal, it's not going to be GREAT simply because of the fact that neither of you will know what you're doing or how to make it good. For guys, there should be no tearing or stretching, but if the girl isn't wet enough, it can cause a lot of irritation for both the guy and the girl. One thing that you do have to watch out for with guys is the foreskin and something called the septum on the underside of the penis. It connects the two, much like the septum under your tongue or the webbing between your fingers. Make sure that the foreskin doesn't pull back too far or you can tear the septum.
It's hard to describe how it feels because as a girl, you don't have any analogous organs to relate. If you're really curious as to how it feels like, you can try slipping a finger inside of yourself. It's warm, wet, and tight. Because the penis is full of sensitive nerve endings, this can feel really good.
Otherwise, there are no universal absolutes. Different guys have different preferences, so when you do decide to have sex with someone, make sure you're able to communicate. Tell him what makes you feel good, and how it feels when you play with him. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a question. Just be sure that when you start becoming sexually active that you use condoms and schedule regular visits to your gynecologist! Have fun and be safe! ^_^
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