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Boyfriend's dad died a few years ago...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's one of my best friends and we love each other. His dad died when he was in middle school, but he never really talks about it. I only know his dad died because he uses phrases like "he was" and stuff, I think he might have said "my dad died" once or twice. I really want to know how his dad died, and we usually tell each other everything. I know some of it is just me being nosy, but I also don't want to say anything awkward on accident, like saying something about cancer or car accidents or something. Does anyone have any advice on how I can broach the subject with him?
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If he starts talking about his dad, how he misses him, etc., it would be a good idea to tell him that you are always there to listen and support him- and that you are very sorry for what happened. You never really get over the death of a parent, especially if it happens when you are young. Because of that, it is difficult for your boyfriend to bring it up; it simply hurts too much to talk about it. Still, it would help him to open up to you about it- it would really help him to have someone to lean on.
At the same time, it isn't really a good idea to bring it up if he isn't really ready to talk about it. He has to be willing to open up- my guess is that it's just a matter of time before he does. Again, what you can do is wait till he brings up his father, and then let him know you are always there to listen to and support him. At that point, asking something like, "would you mind if i asked what happened to him?", would not be rude, especially if you bring it up gently and politely.
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