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mixed signals?
heyy, i'm a 19/f. he's a 20/m.
i recently met this guy and we were talking and yadayadayada. we got eachother numbers and all that fun stuff. anyways my friend and i were going down to see her boyfriend and the guy i'm talking to. we are still in the awkward get to know you stage. anyway, we were all hanging out and things were going good until these other girls started showing up and kept glaring at me for talking to him and kept pulling me away from him whenever we got near eachother. anyways, my friend, her boyfriend, and i left to go get some food and then we were gonna go back to where he was. her boyfriend fell asleep in the process of our food getting made, so i texted him and i said 'hey sorry we aren't gonna be able to come back" and he said "why?" and i said "well *joe* passed out on the couch haha" and he said "oh.." and i said "yeahhh i'm sorry i didnt talk a lot. i didnt want to bother you when you were talking to other people and then you randomly disappared. haha" and he said " i'm sad now that you aren't coming back." and then he said "i'm sorry i wanted to talk to you more and get to know you" then before i said anything back he said "can i come get you and you can come back over?" and i said 'well *kelsey* doesnt feel good so i wanna make sure everything is ok" and he said 'ahh ok" and then i said "but maybe we can do lunch tomorrow or an early dinner" and he said "yeah sounds good to me. i'll ttyl. maybe see you tomorrow" and i said "okay. ttyl. goodnight"
so thennn.. the next day we all woke up and we were all watching football on *joes* bed. haha and *kelsey* said "*joe* text *andy* and tell him to come over" so *joe* texted him and said "yo *andy*. we are having a party on my bed. get your ass here now" and *andy* said "i would if i could but i can't :(" so then we texted him later about doing lunch/dinner but he couldnt do lunch/dinner because he had to go home for an appointment.
so then *kelsey* told me that *joe* might come down and visit her and so i texted *andy* was like "heyyy so *joe* might be coming down to visit *kelsey* and i think you should come down with him if you want :)" and he said "well why should i come down" and i was like "cause i'll be here and i'm awesome" and he said "oh really who lied to you?" and i said " :( harsh." and he said "haha playing with ya." and i said "idk about that. seemed pretty sincere to me :(" and he said "well i'm sorry i didnt mean it." and i said "haha i know i was joking" and he was like "oh i know you were."
he never really answered my question about if he wanted to come down or not, i was talking to my other friend about it and she said that maybe he'll come down and surprise you. so i mean, that's possible, but you never know with boys.
but like i feel like he's sending mixed signals and i don't know what else to do/say to get things to pick up faster.. idk if he wants things to go farther or what. i'm all around confused and i was just hoping you could help me figure out what he MAY be thinking. :)
thanks for your time!
sorry that this is sooo long.
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I agree that he's sending mixed signals, but that seems to happen a lot during the 'getting to know you' stage.
The first thing I want to mention is that there's something going on between him and the girl at the party that kept getting pissed and pulling him away from you. Whether they're dating or used to date or they're talking, i don't know. But she wouldn't feel as though she had the right to get pissed off and pull him away from you if there wasn't more to the story. If I were you, I'd figure out what that was all about before I pushed any further to hang out or get to know him better.
As far as him wanting you to come to the party so bad, then not giving a straight answer on coming to see you; I have no idea. It could really be a number of things. Either, he's upset because you didn't come back to the party so he's being stubborn about coming to see you now. Or, he's just giving you a hard time and playing hard to get. Or, there is something going on with the girl from the party and he's decided not to come see you based on where their friendship/relationship stands now.
So, at this point, I think you should figure out what that girl was all pissed about. Then, (as long as it's still a go) say something casual like, "So, have you decided if you're coming down with Joe?" That way you'll be reminding him that you'd still like to see him and you'll get a chance of getting a straight answer.
If he avoids the question again, you'll know that he doesn't want to come see you for some reason or another. At that point, I would move on. If he doesn't want to come see you when he's wanting start a relationship, who knows how he'd be during a relationship.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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