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does he not want to talk to me anymore..what did i do
im a 16/f, i have recently started doing stuff with a 18/m when school ended. our relationship started out like this : he saw me in school in a classroom that he was visiting to say bye to the teacher because he was graduating that week. He saw me and obviously thought I was cute so when i got home i saw he friended me on facebook. then he Inboxed me and got my number [this was in june] the first day we started talking, he asked for a handjob/blowjob. i jokingly agreed to it because i liked the attention. from then on it only got worse. he asked for pictures the second day we started talking. i didnt give in until about the 5th day after having a long talk about it with him..ever since then ive became pretty much whipped and i will litterally do whatever he wants me to do, whenever he wants me to do it. i guess you could say i like it when he tells me what to do..i dont know why..anyways, we had sex for the second time today. when i got home, i realized that i really like him. and now that weve had sex, [he was my first by the way. when we first did it, he made it seem really safe and he made me feel really comfortable about it, the way he talked to me because he knew i didnt want to] when we first did it, after he left, i felt like we were bonded togethor and that i needed to be texting him..i felt like we had a connection. obviously he doesnt feel that way..but for me, it really means a lot to me that he was my first and that we did that. i really like him ..even though hes clearly stated before that he isnt looking for a relationship and he just wants to have fun and thinks im hot. [hes never called me pretty by the way. just hot and cute and sexy]
today after we had sex at his house, i got really sad. because i really enjoyed it and while it was happening i looked into his eyes and i felt like we had something. i just cried my eyes out for over an hour because now i feel bonded to him for ever, because we had sex. i really really like him and i dont want him to ever stop talking to me, ever. and it really hurts me the most because think about it..if this is the way he met me and is doing stuff with me, then he's probobly doing the same thing with other girls. he never admits it. i dont know what to do..i feel torn. completely.
and by the way i asked this question to a collumist a week ago but nobody answered it so now im asking a few more people, so all of this that i just wrote about, happened last sunday. ever since then, he BARELY texts me anymore. he used to always text me all the time and tell me to text him when i woke up. uhmm now he just stops answering after a while. im getting really sick of it, i mean we still video chat sometimes and he asks for pictures sometimes but overall, i think hes just done with me or got bored or something. but how can a guy get bored with a girl who will do whatever he wants? arent they supposed to like that..im just so confused i dont it.
please help me
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Sorry I didn't answer this for awhile, the answer is just so obvious I didn't have the interest to answer.
You're being fooled around with, he doesn't want a relationship; he just wants to fuck. You don't want to just fuck, you want a relationship; that's impossible with him. You can either keep fucking him for no reason and really end up getting hurt worse on the inside, or you can ditch him now.
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if you want answers, next time try making it public....unless you don't like that.
first thing I'll do is answer your last question;
dudes get bored when chicks are submissive as hell. its not a challenge. me personally, after having sex with random chicks who love getting thrown around, I've come to realize that I'm being a douchebag....he'll probably have a moment like that in a few years. If put in that same situation now, I would at least try to make a relationship work. but again, its been six years of no companionship outside of just plain straight up sex. a lot of guys like a girl who acts as their equal, not just because of the challenge of getting them in bed, but because they're just as satisfying out of bed as in. your whole story is typical, and my answer can be rendered to this; There are rare exceptions, but most dudes don't get beyond this stage for several years.... you're going to be able to start dating out of this bracket of short meaningless relationships in about two years. you could always hold off until then....
good luck though, kiddo. you'll find a good guy after a while, just keep looking.
-Gunner.
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