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boyfriend not ready
Me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago..When I say this I mean it I'm not nieve by any means..and he is the type of person who doesn't put feelings before the truth. We sat and talked for hours about why we were breaking up..finally he admitted to falling in love with me being the reason. He said he wasn't ready to give himself fully to a person and wasn't ready to have a serious relationship, and have those types of feelings in this stage of his life, he thought he was ready but he wasn't. I miss him a lot, i havn't called him, i havn't texted him..hes texted me once to try to keep up with "being friends"..and i told him im not ready for all that..he told me i was the best girlfriend hes ever had and it sucks because if he was ready..this is exactly the type of relationship he'd want. I guess i just really wanna know if this has happened to anyone and their story and if you think he'll come back and some advice what to do.
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Hey! my names lauraa.
I had a similar problem, but my boyfriend (about 4 months or more at the time, took my virginity..etc) broke up with me because he wasnt happy. I wasnt doing anything wrong, neither was he. Something was mentally wrong with his mind (because his ADD medicine made him go insane if he took it too often), I took it so offensively, i cried and cried for hours. He broke up with me on a sunday, we had school the next day. I put on a front that i was the happiest person ever, with or without him. I was full out in love with him. As i was walking to math, he was in the same hallway as my math classroom. He was waiting for his friend, I just walked right past him, laughing, smiling, and i didnt even acknowledge him. Just doing that made him feel like complete shit. We were apart for about two weeks, then he came running back to me, realizing i was the best thing that has ever happened to him, and he doesnt want it to end. We stayed together for about 3 or 4 more months. He cheated on me wayy back in the beginning of our relationship with a girl from upstate. That girl came down and i was faking to be her best friend so i could plan to hang out with her and "beat the shit out of her". Well, apparently he knew about the plan all long and the day she was going to hang out with my friends and i, he was all mad, yelling at me and stuff. So i didnt talk to him for the rest of the night and went to go hang out with her with a couple of friends. I did not beat the shit out of her, she ended up being really nice and funny and i knew them hooking up when my bf and i started going out was a mistake. He again, was unhappy, broke up with me. I was devistated for about 45 minutes.. Then my dad came up to me and told me how i was an amazing daughter and he is so happy with the person i become, and that i was beautiful and that theres so many other guys out there and he's not the only one. After that advice.. i was strong. I went out, went to my friend jakes house, had dinner with his family, hooked up with jake ;), got picked up, went shopping with my dad, then i went out to dinner with him. it was really nice! i had alot of fun, and my ex bf didnt cross my mind once.
What im telling you to do is: act happy, if you see him out in public, smile, dont make alot of eye contact with him, just glare at him (in a nice way) and walk, smile, laugh, act like your happy self.
I don't know how long you and your boyfriend went out for, but whatever happens..just happens for a reason. It may hurt, it may even make you reallly upset. But you gotta move on and just wait for the best.
Oh, and again, my boyfriend came running back to me, because i didnt look all upset and mopey in school haha :)
good luck! remember: SMILE!!!!!
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