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reliving past expieriences.
Okay so basicly my problem is sometimes I cant stop thinking and practicly torturing myself over things that have happend in the past,I
never used to be like this so I dont know why its come on all of a sudden.
For example id be lying in bed and I would think of something embarassing that happend and just beat myself up about it.
or id be thinking why did I do that,about a certain time.
this is driving me crazy,and it makes me super paronied about stuff that has more then likely been forgotten.
like last night i was thinking about this one time i was making out with this guy,and I convinced myself i did something wrong (because after that we stopped hooking up (it wasnt sex related btw) but I kept coming up with possible conclusions as to why that happend,telling myself it must have been this or that,then id feel embarassed about it.
I know what your probably thinking im mental!,I am do like seriously am I going crazy? whats wrong with me and how do I stop myself from doing this,it only really happens at night before i go to bed. has this ever happend to anyone else?
any help will be aprciated thank you.
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Like biting your nails, or picking your nose, you've got a bad habit.
You aren't crazy or going insane. You've just picked up a bad thought habit. Happens to the best of us. Like all bad habits, it can be really hard to break, but it's entirely possible.
My mother used to call those pre-bedtime bad thoughts the 'Attack of the What-ifs'. I think there is funny poem about it some place, and it's really quite common. It will probably happen to you a few times in your life, but you'll want to make sure you can control it and it isn't happening all the time.
A few things to do:
Find a thought-killer. For me it was Tetris. I can't think about things that stress me out and play Tetris at the same time. You might have a book, or a CD or something like that that just stops you from thinking for a little while too.
Exercise. A skip-rope was a God send for me because it's simple to own and use, and really tiring. Often these sorts of thoughts sneak up on us when we can't sleep. So, go and wear yourself out so you just fall into bed exhausted.
Turn the thoughts around. All brains like to think about the worse thing that could happen. We are just wired that way. Trying to think about the BEST thing that could happen is hard work. Sometimes this approach works, other times it doesn't really apply, 'cause you don't have enough information (like with your hook up scenario) to know what the best or worst situation could possibly be. But often dreaming up the best possible scenario, or dreaming up the scenario 'that has nothing to do with me' will keep your mind busy AND will end up seeming a lot more reasonable the paranoid thoughts.
Don't worry too much about it though. It's just a habit you need to do some work to break.
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Your definately not mental! Dont worry about that. I think you need something to feel better about yourself such as thinking back on times that were fun or good for you. Maybe a time with friends a time of accomplishment and so on. Dont worry sometimes I think about stuff that make me feel bad about myself and embarrassed too. Its a phase you'll probably grow out of. Hope this helps! -Farrah Gonzalez
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