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lost virginity and now am worried/upset :(
Hi. i am 16 years old and a female. two days ago i lost my virginity to a guy in my neighborhood. I am so ashamed. It's not like me at all, and I am so depressed with myself right now. only one of my friends knows and my parents do not know. i don't want to tell anyone though because i know they would think of me differently if i did, especially my parents. I regret it soo much though. I feel like i lost my childhood and my innocence. I don't know how to keep living like nothing changed because I don't feel like I am still a kid now. Also I am worried because although I know this person does not have any STDs, and we used a condom and it didnt break, my stomach hurts a lot since two days ago and (sorry if this is tmi) but when I peed today I found a light pink discharge when i wiped. I don't know what is wrong. I finished my last period on sunday the 19th. so it isnt my period. i don't know if i should be worried that i am pregnant if the condom didnt break. btw i am not on the pill. My periods are normally very irregular so idk how to tell if i am late or not with it. please help me :(
thanks,
Maggie
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Awww, sweetie, it's okay, don't feel bad, people get caught up in the moment and these things can happen. Don't beat yourself up over this, it's not fair to you, this is just a lesson learned to be more careful, yuh know ? dont think of it like the most horrible think of it as a mistake that you're GLAD happened because you'll be more smart about it next time. I know you feel like you lost your childhood, but you're still 16, having sex ONCE was a mistake, yes, but try not to think about it as losing your innocence. You are still the same person you were before, you just made a bad choice, yuh know ? It WILL get better, I promise, you just have to get through it and try not to worry about it. You still are a kid, just a kid who had sex. no biggie, you still have your innocence, you just dont have a hymen anymore :] haha i know this isn't a joking matter, but i'm trying to make you feel better girl. and if you don't want anyone to know about this, no one will have to know, it can just be your secret, the boy's, your friend's, and ours.
And you "maybe" being pregnant, it might just all be in your head. Sometimes after sex your stomach may hurt, at least, that's what my friend told me. and you could be making yourself feel sick because you feel so guilty. And for the light pink discharge, you should be fine. It's perfectly normal to have a light pink discharge or a brown discharge after having intercourse. If it's just a little, then you have nothing to worry about, it doesn NOT mean that you are pregnant. and since your period is so irregular, you should really get a pregnancy test, maybe go with your friend. It's the only way you'll know for sure, or you can make an appointment with your gyno or regular doctor, they don't have to tell your parents if you dont want them to, so just go get a pregnancy test and then take it from there. If you are pregnant, DO NOT FREAK OUT, panicking is like the worst thing you could do. Just take a deep breath and you'll figure it out. I wish you the best of luck, I'm sorry you have to go through this :[
hope i helped ! good luck, and if you need anything else hun, feel free to inbox me. :] xxo.
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