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hey there again :]


Question Posted Monday July 20 2009, 6:25 pm

haha, hey, I'm the girl whos question you answered about the boyfriend and the psycho ex girlfirend who gets people to harass me haha.
Okay, another question...
uhm, I get your advice and how you said I probably have nothing to worry about, but he's on an island right now .. and we only talk when he goes online. so i asked him how far he got with the his ex and he said it really like .. not that it mattered. and i told him like ... i only asked because .. alot of my ex boyfriends tried to make me do stuff. but i never did it, because im a very independent person and if i dont feel comfortable doing something, i wont. its a simple as that. so anyways, i told him like .. what my recent ex boyfriend did, like pretty much forcing me to kiss him and all he said is, "oh i see." like... shouldnt he care ? i mean it was kinda like a really bad time for me. so yeah. and then i guess i was just like well yeah, and he said, hes an idiot. and that was it, but i dont know, i feel liek he doesnt care. but also. for liek the entire summer ive seen him once. he has football everyday and he doesnt get back til like 830 at night, so i have a life too, and i go out with my friends. so i never see him. and we havent even kissed yet. i dont know. and the day he gets back from vacation i leave for vacation. it's annoying and all my friends say its weird, but its not my fault ! :[ ugh. also. my sister told my mom that I told him that I love him, and now she doesnt trust me, THATS NOT FAIR. i have known him for 12 years. like, wtf. she knows his parents and everything, so im afraid she wont let me go over his house, or let him come over mine. ugh. any advice ? thank you soso muchh.


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JustJessOx answered Tuesday July 21 2009, 10:47 pm:
Hey there =)
glad to see i helped someway!I actually had to cut that answer short cos i was going out and my ride came and i was like gah. haha anyway.

okay what its looking like to me he is he has issues about opening up,like expressing his softer side by showing he cares,he probably really does but hes not sure how to show it or what to say some guys are like that some guys are affectionate and sensitive towards their girlfriend naturally,and others well arent and you have to try and bring it out of them by letting them no its ok to be that way like it doesnt make him any less of a man about it.you really should talk to him though tell him how is casual and relaxed answers make you feel,tell him you need to know that he cares and hes there for you otherwise you can't see it working plain and simple.

because whats the use sitting around putting all the effort in and you get nothing back?he needs to start pulling his weight.
espically when it comes to not seeing each other you both have to put that effort in and find time to hang out and do bf gf stuff together because lets face it if you two have absolutely no communication or anything what kind of relationship is that?

you both need to have a good talk and just put your other plans aside for a while its all about finding the right balance,like not neglecting your friends for him or vice versa if you get what im saying.

like i said before he probably doesnt know what to say or how to react to you asking him about what hes done with the others,maybe he feels like you might loose respect for him if you find out hes done such and such with other girls..?
he might feel like your different to say his ex because your so independant and have respect for yourself and dont let your self be pressured(way to go for that btw )

now,onto your mom not trusting you thats completely ridiculos..shes your mom and should know that your not the type of girl to go jumping into bed with someone if you love them.
thats probably what shes thinking shes a mom its normal they worry like that,you need to reassure her and show her how responsable and mature you are about it she shouldnt stop you from seeing him after that don't worry about that for the meantime unless it actually happens.

anyway sorry this is so long Im probably rambling now,so in a nutshell you definately need to talk to your boyfriend explain what you have to me how you feel like he doesnt care etc,and then your mom if that problem should arise and work together at making time for each other =)
I hope I helped anymore questions im happy to try answer!
Much <3
Jess

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