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How do I choose?!
Im in quite a pickle at the moment and I am not sure how to fix it! 4 guys and 1 chick, one me. Here's the deal. I am dating Evan, boyfriend of 1 month 3 weeks. He is shorter than me, kinda dorky, younger, and is absolutely adorable. He is funny, sweet, and loves me! But then there's the 3 other guys and this chick who are absolutely head over heels for me. And it is very confusing out. There's this guy that I have met recently, his name is Alex(AKA Sexy Mexican) and he is my age taller than me by a few inches and he calls me more than my boyfriend(thats just sad) wants to spend ALL his time with me. He's sweet, funny, original, and uuber hot!
Then there is Lane, he is really sweet and funny and hot and looks like Nick Jonas and he is AWESOME!!! He is a total guy friend but at the same time, he is the guy I've wanted to be with my whole entire life!!! I like him sooo much, now here's the downer....he and I don't live around each other. AT ALL. He's like 6 hours away from me. It sucks, but we talk and text ALL the time.
Then there is Nick, who used to be like my older brother is now more like....idk. We chat all the time about some *cough cough* innappropriate stuff and he says he likes me all the time and he knows how I feel about him. He is tall! Like giant tall(Okay Im 5'1" and hes like 6 foot)and he isn't ugly but he aint cute either. He is okay. Funny, sweet, knows everything about me. And he still cares. That's something.
And last but not least, my ex Tuesday. She is the meaning of hot. She is funny and spontaneous and awesome and loves me. She protects me and wants to be with me and calls me and trusts me and loves the fact that I am me. She wants me to break up with my boyfriend for her. But I am not sure I want to. But this is really hard for me. I love her, but I REALLY like Evan.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!! Can someone please give me some type of answer for this? Because I can't figure it out worth crap.
Please and thank you
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I agree, you are in quite the pickle. What you need to do is step back from what everyone wants you to do and go through each of the people. Write down their names on paper and write everything that you think about them. Doing this will clear your mind and help you make a better decision about who you want to be with. While you're writing things down about them, you will likely widdle a few off as you go.
Think about things like:
-Why is Tuesday my ex instead of my girlfriend?
-How would I be able to handle having a boyfriend that lives six hours from me?
-Who makes me happiest when I see their name pop up on my phone in a text/call?
-Who do I trust and see myself with the most?
-Who do I think of as a fling and who do I think of as a more serious relationship? And, do I even want a serious relationship right now?
ECT..
You may not be able to answer all of the questions, but as I said, you should be able to get rid of a few as you go through these questions. You should start seeing that one of them really isn't right for you right now, or that one does make you especially happy.
I can't honestly give you which one you should choose. There are too many choices, and with the brief provided information, there isn't much fluctuation between the five. Meaning, none of them pop out in my head as someone you should definitely be with or one that you should definitely not be with.
I can say that I really don't think you should go for Lane. It's fine to stay friends with him, but at your age, you should really be with someone that is close by. You're probably learning new things about relationships all the time, and it would really suck to miss out on being able to learn those things in person.
I also think that if you choose to stay with Evan, you need to make sure that you don't talk to Nick about inappropriate stuff, if you haven't already. You probably wouldn't like Evan to do that, so you need to make sure you stay honest with him.
From what you've said, it doesn't sound like you're much interested in Nick. You didn't really have anything great to say about him, like that he's awesome or anything. It seems like you still view him as an older brother, minus the inappropriate talks.
Tuesday sounds really great, like a good best friend. You need to think if you see her as a great friend or more than that. You seem hesitant on her, even though you only have really good things to say about her. She sounds like she makes you feel good about yourself, which is good. But, like I said earlier, you need to think about why you broke up with her before when you were dating. If it was something serious, you shouldn't go for it again.
I can't tell if you're thinking about Alex because he's hot or what. You also said that he's sweet and funny, but only you know if you see him as a fling or something more serious. You also said that you just recently met him, so make sure you're not just swept up by his looks before you make any rash decisions.
Either way, what you need to do is go through each one of them, like I just did. You'll be able to fill in tons of details that I can't, because I don't know any of them. Once you break them down, it won't be so overwhelming. Just go with your heart. There will be one person that your heart leads you to, and you might even know which person that is now. You've got to make a decision, so make sure you thoroughly think about each of them.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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