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Scared
19/m.
I have been with my current girlfriend for over a year and four months already. We have been in a long distance relationship for the past few months since I had gone away to college and she just recently moved up with me so living with one another so close to each other seems like a shock as of a now but that will go away promptly. My fear however, is that considering I am only her second boyfriend (the times between her past relationship and my current one were insignificant, and she went out with her past bf for well over 3 years) is that she seems to yearn to live a single lifestyle and I really don't want her to want that. She is constantly asking me if she thinks she is pretty, only because she wants other guys to notice her. Not to mention I get jealous easily and she (claims) she's joking around about getting other guy's numbers but I feel that she wants to flirt around and live the single lifestyle she's never had. Earlier today she asked me if it would be ok if she went out with her girlfriends to get other guys numbers just to flirt around and I told her that she has to choose between doing those things and staying with me, and that she can't have both because that is not only an extremely selfish thing of her to want, but does not take into any consideration how I would feel in that matter. I consider myself the perfect boyfriend type, but I am scared that now that we are living together, things will not work out, no matter how hard I try to make her want to stay with me.
What should I do in this situation? Any words of advice would be much appreciated.
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I agree with the below.
You want a serious relationship, she does not.
Break up with her calmly. Tell her you want different things, and that you think she'd be better off flirting around with her girlfriends, but thats just not who you are or what you want right now.
Hell, if you want, tell her that when she's ready to expend all her flirting energy on one person, she can give you a call.
Though, a fair warning. "Perfect boyfriend type" tells me more that you're probably a doormat and that you don't enter into relationships as an equal.
You can't be her servant and her boyfriend. Be assertive, you know whats right for you, now stand up behind it and walk away. If she chases after you, maybe you can help her grow up a few years in the space of a week.
But probably not, so I'd seek greener pastures.
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I think you guys shouldn't be together.
You've been together a long time in my book.
From what your saying she wants to be single apparently.
She's with you she shouldn't be flirting with other guys or getting other guys numbers.
If you are getting jealous you have every right to be with a girlfriend like that.
I think you deserve better than her.
You sound like a good boyfriend to me.
Hope this helps.
Take care.
:)
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