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im confused my best friend lie
i thought me and my best friend were honest to each other but she wasnt to me , well we practically did everything together , we even shower together, i just to tell her everything about me but she always hide stuff for me , because she thought i would judge because of my religion beliefs , shes kind off wild she dates alot of guys and knowing that they all close friends, and she likes having sex with guys shes not dating or that she doesnt know that well. i was i a huge crush on this guy since middle school and i found out a couple months ago that she was talking to him , i got pissed off , because she knew i was practically in love with him , well i lie and told her i didnt care and taht i didnt like him ,the next day i hear they dating , and it got me mad because she kiss him in from of me and stuff , well 2 weeks later she breaks up w/ him because the guy that shes in love goes to the same school and hes mad that she was dating him. then six months later she stills talks to my crush and goes to his house every day and my crush bff told me that they had sex everyday , since then i stop talking to her for that , i didnt wantted to confront her cause i know shes going to deny it , she knows i know about it and she havent come up to me and said sorry. is being 2 months since the last time i spoke to her and i miss her . and plus summer is here and we planned so many stuff this summer and idk what to do should i call or text her saying why i dont talk to her , or should i wait for her to do it?
oh btw she had sex with my brother and didnt tell me for 5 months and she deny it during that time
* im a female im 17 years old
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i'm really sorry about that dude, problems with best friends are always really hard.
my advice:
if you really miss her that much and you want her back as a friend
forgive and forget.
we don't choose our friends based on their mistakes, right?
we choose them based on there personality( and she obviously must have had a good one for you to still want to be friends with her).
it's complicated though, i know.
when emotions and boys are involved it always is.
i think you should be the bigger person and talk to her, tell her whatever you've been wanting to tell her, your thoughts and feelings.
you'll know what's right based on her response.
the important thing to remember is that everyone makes mistakes, everyone slips up and you can't stay mad forever.
whatever happens, atleast you can say you tried.
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I don't think you should talk to her until she talks to you. If you just stopped talking to her and she didn't even care enough to find out why you weren't talking to her, she's not much of a best friend. It's been two months since you last talked to her and not once has she tried to resolve anything. If I were you, I would just try to move on and find new friends. Obviously this one isn't capable of being trustworthy. If she had sex with your brother, didn't tell you, and denied it- that alone would make me drop a friend.
It's not as though you haven't been a good friend to her. You've given her chances to fess up to things, which she just repeatedly lied about. Then she dated a guy that she knew for a fact you had a major crush on. You should have told her that it wasn't okay with you. Of course you don't want to be the one standing in the way. But if you had told her that and she got with him anyway, you would know for a fact that she's not a good friend. But, since you told her it was okay, she's going to say "What? You told me it was okay and that you didn't like him."
With your future friends, don't be afraid of a little confrontation. If you think something is up that you need to know the truth about, ask. That's what friends are for. They're supposed to be honest. You're supposed to be able to ask them questions and get a straight, truthful answer.
It sucks that you guys are friends anymore, but if I were you, I'd just let it go. It's been far too long to bring it up now. If she really cared, she would have asked you two months ago. If you bring it up now, she's honestly probably not going to care. You haven't talked to her since April; just let it lay until she brings it up and apologises to you.
Darby(:
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wow, your best friend isn't the best one, but i understand what you mean by you miss her, but i had a bad best friend before and it's best to let them see you have a great time without them. and then once they see it they'll start running back to you.
-aley
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