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my parents want me to date a guy with the same religion as me...
Alrightie then...Im 15 years old and am currently dating a very sweet 16 year old boy whom I love with my whole heart! We have been dating for 6 months and he is truly the first love of my life. But unfortunatley he is a Buddhist and I am a Christian. My parents want me to marry a Christian man. They have asked me what religion he is, and when they do I simply bring up the fact that he is in a Christian rock band called Shy of Divinity (www.shyofdivinity.com) So I guess they just Assumed he was a Christian. I have a feeling that sooner or later Im going to have to tell them the that he is a Buddhist. How am I going to break it to them, and when is a good time???
~thanx for the help~
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Upsidedown is right. Also, even if they don't respect your decision, There's nothing they can do about it. You're a human and you have rights. Also, what's the difference if you marry someone of a different religion? People can have their opinions. Religion doesn't really matter. It's a set of beliefs, not something you should let dictate your life.
My advice: Be your own person.
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I think what you have to do is tell your parents the truth. It is obviously bothering you so you should tell them, but dont just go out and say,"My boyfriend is a buddist". Next time they ask about religion, explain that he means a lot to you and it would mean the world if they could repect your choice to choose who you want to date. If they love you i think that they will try to understand.
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I'll do everything that I can here to stay off of my soapbox here about parents and religion...
Your best bet in this situation would be to leave things the way that they are: with your parents thinking that your boyfriend is a Christian. In a perfect world, it would be enough for your parents to know that you're dating a boy who makes you happy, but from what I've gathered from their insistence that you date a Christian boy it's unlikely that they would react very well to the news that he doesn't fit their prototype of the man that you should marry.
As long as YOU don't have a problem with your boyfriend being Buddhist (good for him, by the way), then there's no reason to risk your relationship by telling your parents the truth.
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