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in love with him but dont want to be
18/F
I'm in love with a man I've known for many years, but the problem is, i don't want to be. He's hurt me so many times and lied to me...but no matter what, he's always in my mind. I get so jealous when he's with another woman..even though I'm in a relationship with someone else who i've been with for a few months.
I don't know what to do. When i talk to him or see him i become weak..he knows i love him and he keeps saying he loves me, even after he recently almost got engaged to another woman. these feelings i have for him wont go away and i really want them to. someone helpp
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This has happened to me. I have been wanting this guy for years but he always had a girlfriend or told me that he doesnt want to be in a relationship. He would always flirt with me and ohh man his hugs were amazing. Even though he has done some crappy things to me, I still really care for him. Even though I have a boyfriend I always think what if. I think its because I want someone that I cant have that I have been wanting for so long. Truth is, you deserve better. If he wont give you the time of day or leads you on he is just messing with you. Maybe he doesnt realize what he is doing. It sucks. Just try your hardest to get away from him. Keep your distance. Hope all goes well. Good Luck!
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I've seen so many questions on this site that are in the same general format: "I love him so much but he ______ and I don't like it, and I don't want to be with him."
It's a shame there isn't a pill that you can take to immediately fall out of love with someone, but unfortunately the only way that you'll be able to get out of this situation is to sit down and really think about why it is that you love him. You haven't described a single positive quality of his in this question, only that he has hurt you and lied to you on a repeated basis. That sounds like a hint to me.
My best advice (also unpopular with most people) is to consider where you are right now in the grand scheme of your life. You're 18 years old, and you haven't even had the chance to experience much of adult life. You'll have so many chances to meet somebody who doesn't make you feel this way, and once that happens, you'll finally be able to move on with your life.
If you ever want this situation to resolve itself, then you need to put your past behind you and start looking to your future. As the old saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. You've got no reason to get hung up on an absolute jerk at your age.
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