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Long Distance Relationships


Question Posted Saturday June 6 2009, 4:26 am

I'm meeting this boy and he's having to move away because he is going to play footbool in a different part of the country which will lead to him going professional.

But the problem is that we both want to get with each other, but have no ideas on how we would make this work.

He would be away all week living in somebodys house and would get back of a saturday and would have to see his Family, his Friends and then Me.

We both really want to make this work, but we need some ideas on how. We have known each other since we were 11 and we are both now 17 and 18 but have grown alot closer aas we have gotten older.

Please help!! Any Ideas on how we could make this relationship work would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks


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jkat21992 answered Sunday June 7 2009, 5:51 pm:
It really depends on the two people and how much each of them want it. I was/am in a long distance relationship right now. I live in newyork and he lives in massachusetts. we realized that we both liked eachother after talking everyday at the begining of march. i went to visit him at the beginning of april and we grew a lot closer. but the past month things have changed. we dont talk as much as we used to, but i think we have trust issues going on between us right now. but your situation is different from ours because you atleast get to see him on the weekends and we go months without seeing eachother. if two people both want the same exact thing i believe they can make it work .. gooodluck:)

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CaliRhodes3923 answered Saturday June 6 2009, 7:49 am:
There are many ways that you can make it work, i myself am currently ina long diatance relationship, and am actually ina worse situaltion that you, as im currently deployed. the key is to maintain contact and trust, send letters pictures, emails. somtyhing that lets both him and you that you still care and you arent drifting apart.( i say letters because it tales alot more thought to write and mail a latter than to send an email) call him a few times a wekk, or as aften as his schedule allows, dont make it ALL about you, trust me, even in you are 5000 mikles away you CAN come across as clingy. If you both have laptops, buy dual webcams and video chat, this cal also promote intamacy VIA the internet or the phone, which granted isnt as good as the real thing, but for a long distance rlationship, its moe than enough. Just remember: just because he dpesnt answer the phone fdoesnt necessarily mean hes with another girl, this kind of paranoia is more normal than most people think. since he is a football player, he WILL be tired ofted, and may not want to ttalk all the time, this is not a reflection of ebbing feelings for you, it it what it is; fatigue. However, at the very least you can tell him that you love him call him at least just to say taht, that goes fopr him too, even if its a 3 minute phonecall to say so. I hope this helps.

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