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what should i do
my ex boyfriend and i of two years broke up about three months ago.. we hadnt talked to each other once, but this weekend we ran into each other and ever since hes been begging for me back..at the begining, and places throughout, he treated me amazing. But then he started treating me bad, never talked to me too much, his friends were a horrible influence, idk if his best friend wanted us to break up or not, but i would always hear shit from him about my boyfreind doing shit. His best friend fucks every girl he sees, is a liar, and has gone to jail. anyways, he wants me back now. wont lie, im kinda basically over it... but theres still something making me wonder. hes sat home the past three nights on the computer talkin to me, ive just told him how it could never work and every lil thing hes done wrong.. i do miss how he was, but i do kno he is a guy, they say theyll change but they wont. im not going back to him, but... i do have some want, to know or see if he really can change, and have a few months go by and if it does and i know its like right, like whatever, we can possibly work again. i just want a guy to realize and treat me right, he did very good at it, just shit happened and in the end we fought a ton... and we just ended it. and that night he got with another girl. and has gotten with many since..
anyways, how should i right now, treat him, talk to him, whatever. i highly dont plan on hanging out... im not ever plannin on sweet talking him, like sayin i miss you i love you, non of that shit. i just dont kno what i should do realy, at all with this situatoin. cause what im doin, is going on like i did before, but just gonna gonna see if hes gonna actually do absolutely everything for me, and have it last for a very long time, before anything happens.. i just dont know how i should handle anything rightnow.
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just forget him or pretend to because he will realise that youve moved on and he wont bug you,
if you see him again pretend you dont know by saying who are you,
lol itll teach him a lesson, he says that he loves you then why does he sleep around, the answer is clear hes just using you so just get over him he doesnt desserve you
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I think you should stick with your gut instincts. I'm a girl and have been in similar situations. You want to see if he's actually willing to change, but I wouldn't even fool with it. You've said that you're pretty much over it and you should let it stay like that. You don't want to open yourself up and allow him to hurt you again. I think you're just curious and thinking of good times that you shared together. He got with another girl the very night you guys broke up and has been with many since then. That's a huge, huge red flag. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't be with a girl the same day you break up.
He's acting like it right now because he's probably thinking of good times you had together too. But if he's still best friends with the same guy, I'd say it's a no go. Especially since he's been single and hooking up with other girls for a while. You're going to have to deal with getting all of those girls away from him, unless you want other girls involved in your relationship. If he's just been randomly 'getting with girls' you can guarantee most of those girls have little to no self-respect. There's no way they're going to respect you or the boundaries a guy has while in a relationship if they don't even respect themselves.
Sure, it sounds great for the guy to go back and be as sweet as he was when you were in a relationship and just completely turn things around. But you've been down that road once. You've give him opportunities to prove himself and start treating you better. I'm sure you didn't just dump him the second he wasn't talking to you enough. You probably tried to make things work for a while.
If I were you, I would just steer clear. Let him know that you do miss the way he was at certain times during your relationship. But let him know that you're not willing to try another relationship since he's been hooking up with girls and is still best friends with a guy that's a bad influence. If you tell him all of this and he stops hooking up with girls and stops modeling his best friends behavior for a prolonged period of time, you could try a relationship again. But he would have to start a completely different lifestyle. If he does that for a long time and still wants to be with you, go for it. And by a long time, I mean at least 3-5 months.
Also, if you have any indication that he's still hooking up with girls or he's not treating you amazingly, just let him go. If he can't stop being with girls and can't treat you well 100% of the time, he's obviously not mature enough to have a serious, committed relationship.
Darby(:
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